tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78017738636951388602024-03-18T18:14:39.991+00:00An Autistic AuthorSpechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.comBlogger162125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-79461870941646418292024-03-18T18:14:00.001+00:002024-03-18T18:14:07.870+00:00something I posted somewhere <div>Sometimes I write long things here and sometimes short. I never really know which way it's going to go until I'm done writing.</div><div><br></div><div>I wish I had some terrible life to justify the way I feel. I wish I was being abused and bullied and hated on regularly to give me a reason. But there is no reason or rhyme.</div><div><br></div><div>Nothing has happened, life is the same it's always been and yet I just feel lost in an endless void. I don't feel happiness or joy, sadness or fear. I'm just... Existing, numb to the world, to people, to anything really.</div><div><br></div><div>I hurt myself last night, because I'm sick of my normal neurological pain, I just wanted to feel something, anything different to what I usually feel.</div><div><br></div><div>I tried to OD at the beginning of this month, didn't really work out, but I cant stop thinking about it. I can't stop imagining all the ways I could end this suffering. All the ways I could finally be free. </div><div><br></div><div>No matter what I do, no matter if I do good deeds or bad, make someone laugh or cry, I just feel the same emptiness. What's the point in being alive if I never really get to live?</div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-2328744464218341862023-09-11T13:00:00.001+01:002023-09-11T13:00:00.139+01:00Filthy American Here - Why I am leaving ABA therapy Part 2<p>Jacob here again, story time is over and it's time to talk about where I am, how I'm currently feeling about this job, and why I'm leaving. Over in the UK, where the main author of this blog is from, ABA is banned as a form of child abuse. When I learned I was getting this job and excitedly told my friend I'd be helping autistic kids, I was stunned to find out he wasn't excited about me. After learning how the UK classified it, I looked deep into this for a bit. I needed to make money, but I wasn't going to participate in child abuse. I had 6 weeks of paid training, so I decided to keep researching, keep learning and see what happened. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Controversy Surrounding ABA Therapy</h4><p>Many of the issues leading to the banning in the UK seem to stem from the idea of trying to 'convert' the patient. ABA was aiming to make the patient 'normal' instead of helping them. As we talked in the last post, you can't 'fix' neuro-divergence. It can't just be treated away, whether you're on team superpower or team disability. It's a part of you, it's how you think. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3XqIaAWPDI8sZcJFF3Yl-qfPgbKjKVbLJZ0ls5nUVh8CTPnF_hpaxCrFINNDEXYwH5olFM-8T_SFEs5PNxUrvDpCTiZ-mhZGfh3UNDEP86EXMgIlDYOwPzsOlc5hA_NZ_rdxhfceTMdMoBf70dpDlh3n3qzDvZ2mPAkEfO2B1T6EVO4mzTkl6qn9mF53K/s5472/priscilla-du-preez-F9DFuJoS9EU-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3648" data-original-width="5472" height="244" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3XqIaAWPDI8sZcJFF3Yl-qfPgbKjKVbLJZ0ls5nUVh8CTPnF_hpaxCrFINNDEXYwH5olFM-8T_SFEs5PNxUrvDpCTiZ-mhZGfh3UNDEP86EXMgIlDYOwPzsOlc5hA_NZ_rdxhfceTMdMoBf70dpDlh3n3qzDvZ2mPAkEfO2B1T6EVO4mzTkl6qn9mF53K/w366-h244/priscilla-du-preez-F9DFuJoS9EU-unsplash.jpg" width="366" /></a></div><p>Trying to 'convert' these kids ended up leaving them with trauma as adults. They had been told what they were doing was unacceptable, the feelings they felt weren't 'normal' and needed to be gone so they could be part of modern society. This worried me as my son had also been recommended ABA therapy to help. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Discrete Trial Training: An Overview</h4><p>During training, there was a lot of talk of DTT, discrete trial training, which is simply a system of testing their knowledge or actions with repeating stimuli (requests) recording progress and allowing preferred rewards. This made me a bit nervous, but most of what we had as examples was simply academic things. Vocabulary, identifying colors, social responses. It was basically me being a tutor to a kid who learned differently and needed more frequent stimulation and rewards. </p><p>Then there was NET, a natural environment, which is pretty much all social stuff. I am at the kid's house, watching how they interact. I make sure they know coping skills when they get frustrated, keep them from hurting themselves (if the kid has self-harming behaviour) and I run them through some simple questions to make sure they can communicate well. Things like knowing left and right, up and down, back and front. Also knowing the names of jobs like cashier and teacher. Basically, I'm ensuring they have the vocabulary and communication skills needed in society. This feels a bit like making them 'normal', but also I can see why this is needed. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Importance of Communication Skills for Patients</h4><p>My patient has a lot of feelings and being able to communicate what's happening and how he's feeling with good language skills will help him avoid frustration turning into a tantrum. My patient does have self-hitting behaviour when he hits a certain point of frustration, and I hold his wrists, not hard but firm. This one feels the worst. At the same time, I have seen my son pull his ear or hair and I have stopped him as a parent. While it feels wrong to restrict someone who is not fully in control at times, letting them hurt themselves does not do any good. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEii_3k7vo2JNi2I13rtH3y-5518IVJeWDKxBZO3ahat7yU7M53Pv3sLBJhc_pE05k0mTs_O3CQOYRCB9tzbHY__8KVCYpvHj5NZOpx-734obJE-35ZRbCWDasHewB8YWyMiH3J-go40ElK-i8EslO7qFCHZYEHoU5nuDKk3cd8WkqUX3Jn7kCAkaNIB0B03/s5343/anthony-tran-vXymirxr5ac-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3562" data-original-width="5343" height="228" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEii_3k7vo2JNi2I13rtH3y-5518IVJeWDKxBZO3ahat7yU7M53Pv3sLBJhc_pE05k0mTs_O3CQOYRCB9tzbHY__8KVCYpvHj5NZOpx-734obJE-35ZRbCWDasHewB8YWyMiH3J-go40ElK-i8EslO7qFCHZYEHoU5nuDKk3cd8WkqUX3Jn7kCAkaNIB0B03/w343-h228/anthony-tran-vXymirxr5ac-unsplash.jpg" width="343" /></a></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">My Personal Experience with ABA Therapy</h4><p>Overall I think a lot of the larger concerns with ABA therapy are no longer in practice, at least not in the work I've done. I don't think what I'm doing is child abuse or causing any trauma later. But I also don't think it's doing any good. I feel less like a therapist and more like a babysitter who gives pop quizzes every hour. I feel like my biggest contribution is not to the patient but to the parent who otherwise would struggle to get household tasks done while handling the concerns of their child. </p><p>Despite not feeling like I'm doing harm, the AMA (American Medical Association) recently removed verbiage that specifically mentioned ABA therapy. They have not removed it from accepted practices or stopped approving it on insurance, but they have made the verbiage more general to include all forms of therapy. While they haven't solidly stood against it, they are moving towards not relying on it and given the UK stance on it, I imagine the intent is to slowly phase it out as they bring in other more beneficial types of support. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Why ABA Therapy Banned?</h4><p>Overall I think the harmful practices that got ABA banned in the UK are largely out of practice. But despite the scientific studies showing modern ABA as the most evidence-based helpful therapy, I don't see it providing the benefits everyone claims. Some of the techniques used for the Natural Environment Training could be useful, but I believe they would be better implemented by a parent. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2eefU2s1qwZvHC6og0xAWPGpnGN07uVstoILbhXkiyjVtXmRL098qFguSuOOoSSuyR95OZnBJ7v0db0E0or1l-BQ3pP7DPgY6CFcYq_esqGbmltXVYfL8DspILTWHdzR3rlEyTUNuAnsetit4dPIpIZkNDlPnASJ8hXbBUQeiZiYPQ8mjGF8pIzxJv2wI/s5956/lesly-juarez-DFtjXYd5Pto-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3971" data-original-width="5956" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2eefU2s1qwZvHC6og0xAWPGpnGN07uVstoILbhXkiyjVtXmRL098qFguSuOOoSSuyR95OZnBJ7v0db0E0or1l-BQ3pP7DPgY6CFcYq_esqGbmltXVYfL8DspILTWHdzR3rlEyTUNuAnsetit4dPIpIZkNDlPnASJ8hXbBUQeiZiYPQ8mjGF8pIzxJv2wI/s320/lesly-juarez-DFtjXYd5Pto-unsplash.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p>Easier said than done of course, and not every parent can be a professional therapist on top of everything else. I think having a third party come in and keep them in another room for a few hours to run pop quizzes and push them to basically have school outside of school might leave them feeling disconnected from their family and as if they are the problem to be solved. I don't have a good solution for that, and there is no doubt kids like my patient need some form of support, but I'm not convinced what I'm doing is the best. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Conclusion</h4><p>However, I think at the end of the day, the success will depend greatly on the therapist and the needs of the kid. A kid with decent communication and a really great therapist who can communicate structures to the supporting family as well, they might really show a lot of success from some of the techniques. I might just not be good enough at this. Either way, I am currently searching for other jobs that I can transition to.<br /></p><p>For some more info, </p><p>https://childmind.org/article/controversy-around-applied-behavior-analysis/</p><p></p><p style="text-align: center;">With love and insanity equally,</p><p style="text-align: center;"><span><span></span></span></p><p style="text-align: center;">J.M.</p><p> </p>Jacob Murrayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00462152553392549169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-25220125401309827812023-09-04T13:00:00.001+01:002023-09-04T13:00:00.140+01:00Filthy American Here - Why I am leaving ABA therapy Part 1<p>Hey, this is Jacob, I've contributed before to the politics and ADHD blogs, but this is a first for me. I do NOT have autism (that I'm aware of). I've had some suspicions in the past, but even if I do ADHD rules my life far more than any symptoms that make me consider Autism. Nevertheless, it has become a strong part of my life. About a year ago, my son was diagnosed. We knew he had ADHD already, but he was far from what I've dealt with and there seemed to be more issues than just ADHD. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaqyA95wAu2APT9YXyXJkvpic-T-DbZHKNmJvoZa69QYibeKC8MiwL10C0ecWG-U2ISWzESsuJ0YUCRV86tw7AyOGhSDXH-PEdHeRyElUK-XSy5XWcXeWtij4FSDGQLpZ3pHm0mueTTiWu2u9xEAJtP66oWvEOgieah0FkuuWPSI0ujCa8bDF0Umu0YmvS/s6000/kelli-mcclintock-wBgAVAGjzFg-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="244" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaqyA95wAu2APT9YXyXJkvpic-T-DbZHKNmJvoZa69QYibeKC8MiwL10C0ecWG-U2ISWzESsuJ0YUCRV86tw7AyOGhSDXH-PEdHeRyElUK-XSy5XWcXeWtij4FSDGQLpZ3pHm0mueTTiWu2u9xEAJtP66oWvEOgieah0FkuuWPSI0ujCa8bDF0Umu0YmvS/w366-h244/kelli-mcclintock-wBgAVAGjzFg-unsplash.jpg" width="366" /></a></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">The problem with fixing Neurodivergence</h4><p>So here I am, struggling as a father of 5, a wife with severe mental health concerns, my own ADHD, and now my son has become something I simply don't know how to 'fix'. I put that in quotes because one of the main issues with neurodivergence is non-divergent like to treat us as a problem that can be solved, a disease that can be treated away. While there are some differing views on calling them a superpower or disability, the fact is it is not simply a condition that is separate from us.</p><p>It IS us. I'm not just ADHD, but it is a significant part of my personality. It drives how I think. I'm not some 'normal' person underneath struggling to fight this sickness. I am just me, there's no fighting it. A part of me that is super strong and likely from ADHD is problem-solving.</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">My Love of Problem-solving and how it relates to my Son's Autism</h4><p>I love things I can fix, improve, and optimise. I love the system's lists and solutions. I know I can't fix everything; I know many things are out of my control. But I LOVE problems that I can actually solve. It's like an equation. If I just apply the right formula, I get the right answer. It's super satisfying. My wife has PTSD and is triggered by gunshot sounds. She's gotten to the point if she's expecting it, it's not too bad, but a surprise sound can send her down a bad spiral. This is a problem I can simply solve. I just don't play gunshot sounds. If a show has it, I let her know and keep the volume low or have headphones on.</p><p>So back to my son. Beyond the whole 'fixing' issue, I didn't feel I could help. There was no formula for me to follow to keep his struggles away. No matter what I do, he will still struggle. And that's hard for me. I want to help, I love to help. Beyond just problem-solving, I was raised to help others every chance I get. I also have a high level of empathy. I might not understand social cues well, and I might not understand WHAT the issue is. But I can always tell when something is wrong. I feel sad when other people are sad. I'm very good at reflecting others' emotions in this way. So to see and feel my son struggle hurts. To not know what to do about it hurts worse. </p><p>ADHD kicked in and I frantically started googling autism, techniques, worksheets, and whatever info I could find. Along the way, I learned a lot but also went through some issues at work. Some FMLA struggles led me to lose what was a very stable, very nice, easy, and well paid job. I quickly jumped to a remote IT job so I could keep the income going and keep my tech skills from getting rusty. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">My experience with Burnout and how it led to me quitting the job</h4><p>A month in, this job was so horrific I was fully burnt out. There's lots of talk of the help desk causing burnout from stupid calls and just losing the ability to care, but the work itself wasn't the main issue. The company itself was horrible. Basic things that were given at even the worst jobs I've held were missed here. 15 min breaks? more like 10 min. Heaven forbid the company has to pay for an extra 5 min of my sanity.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDxiLvcjd_gTRoi-6u2oBH5d7GKrg4rmfvCnky2kttOeJpLDZfC6Rc1VNNlzTWDWtGhB2odsGoqCMIJGYxpdEzmmZmvfwcXeLE5sVptAidqPZRCetXrQAN3lfYFv92vOc422ydDN6j0SBu8t1dPVywvjih8vpmWFBPYljwxIMZ3waKERGkMK8vsvTNyVnw/s4240/jo-szczepanska-5aiRb5f464A-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2832" data-original-width="4240" height="250" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDxiLvcjd_gTRoi-6u2oBH5d7GKrg4rmfvCnky2kttOeJpLDZfC6Rc1VNNlzTWDWtGhB2odsGoqCMIJGYxpdEzmmZmvfwcXeLE5sVptAidqPZRCetXrQAN3lfYFv92vOc422ydDN6j0SBu8t1dPVywvjih8vpmWFBPYljwxIMZ3waKERGkMK8vsvTNyVnw/w374-h250/jo-szczepanska-5aiRb5f464A-unsplash.jpg" width="374" /></a></div><p>I had a stomach bug that ravaged thru the family for one week and when it was time to work again, I couldn't. I was at the worst period of depression in my life just at the thought of going back to that job. So I took a month, quit that nightmare and realigned myself. I was so burnt out from the last job that I decided I wanted to take a break from IT and helpdesk in general. I just didn't have anything left to give right then. I couldn't force myself to care anymore.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">My New Job as an ABA Therapist</h4><p>Then I found a job as an ABA therapist for an autistic kid in the local area. This was a perfect fit. I didn't have to take calls, put on a voice, or care about some stranger. I got to build a relationship with someone who needed help. I would be trained on how to help. And in the process, I would learn how to help my son. I currently work with the company still but I am looking to move out. I want to get back into my career and make better money again. I want to feel helpful again. Being in a therapy job, it seems weird that I'm looking to help again. This job should fill that need but for a lot of reasons it doesn't. At this point, I've ranted about what got me here and it's time to talk about what I found and why I need to leave. Part 2 will be a doozie...<br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">With love and insanity equally,</p><p style="text-align: center;"><span><span></span></span></p><p style="text-align: center;">J.M.</p><p></p>Jacob Murrayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00462152553392549169noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-38843142310070202312023-08-28T13:00:00.001+01:002023-08-28T13:00:00.145+01:00Celebrating the Strengths of Autism: Unleashing the Power Within<p>Autism is often associated with challenges, but it's time to shift our perspective and celebrate the remarkable strengths and talents that individuals with autism possess. Their unique way of experiencing the world brings forth a wealth of strengths that should be acknowledged and appreciated. In this blog post, we will explore and celebrate the strengths of autism, from their attention to detail to their creativity and problem-solving abilities. Let's dive in and uncover the incredible gifts that individuals with autism bring to our society.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Attention to Detail</h4><p>One of the remarkable strengths of individuals with autism is their exceptional attention to detail. They possess an innate ability to observe and notice things that others may overlook. This keen eye for detail makes them valuable assets in fields that require precision and accuracy, such as engineering, data analysis, or quality control. Their attention to detail can lead to remarkable outcomes and innovations.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">Creativity</h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgG9OgW016iHzLNL-TD_rEJnut6VIxCLkDNV68F69_OhjLZSAHyyKo9Zny8LBv8PMg_o_60wl14beRXRNAAGus6xgdJrlO05b72M2Fx18gLhLAG7J5B0tIIRqWmEgGZqXA0nOQC7UE_nRsiKOEXkYxfjHP1bxoTFIsRKW-94cb7mKhQ1IhZ5YMDG8TAB5Py/s5184/pexels-anni-roenkae-2317710.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3888" data-original-width="5184" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgG9OgW016iHzLNL-TD_rEJnut6VIxCLkDNV68F69_OhjLZSAHyyKo9Zny8LBv8PMg_o_60wl14beRXRNAAGus6xgdJrlO05b72M2Fx18gLhLAG7J5B0tIIRqWmEgGZqXA0nOQC7UE_nRsiKOEXkYxfjHP1bxoTFIsRKW-94cb7mKhQ1IhZ5YMDG8TAB5Py/s320/pexels-anni-roenkae-2317710.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div><br /></div><p>Autistic individuals often possess a unique and vibrant creativity that shines through in various aspects of their lives. Their ability to think outside the box, see connections others may miss, and approach problems from different angles allows them to generate fresh ideas and solutions. This creative prowess makes them excellent contributors to fields such as design, art, writing, and music. By celebrating their creativity, we foster a richer and more diverse creative landscape.</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Problem-Solving Abilities</h4><p>Individuals with autism have a remarkable capacity for problem-solving. They approach challenges with a focused and analytical mindset, allowing them to find innovative solutions. Their ability to think systematically and consider different perspectives can lead to breakthroughs in scientific research, technological advancements, and problem-solving endeavours. By recognizing and nurturing their problem-solving abilities, we unlock their full potential to make valuable contributions to society.</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">In-Depth Knowledge and Passion</h4><p>Autistic individuals often develop deep knowledge and passion in their areas of interest. They dive into their passions with unparalleled dedication and enthusiasm, becoming experts in their chosen fields. This expertise can be applied in various careers and hobbies, leading to extraordinary achievements. By harnessing their deep knowledge and passion, we create opportunities for them to excel and make a meaningful impact.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">Unique Perspectives</h4><p>Autistic individuals offer unique perspectives and ways of thinking that can bring fresh insights and ideas to the table. Their different cognitive processing styles and alternative viewpoints challenge conventional thinking, leading to innovative solutions and approaches. By embracing their unique perspectives, we encourage diversity of thought, paving the way for new discoveries and breakthroughs across various domains.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEMcdOpJCv28lgxZK2SzdGIle3-0nuSYvJjLE699r90kJWyBFuFJBvbbygm-opShY57Z61luqcEauzvS2VgceiiGyXXW5lde-TPRDlfYMNu2CIEDaSrSvoZHGIGrGd3vrNBDAjl3FhGsL1Qt1SK_IOew1t4NrPeKlfb26h4MFpCiUfD4bqd05mCJ_g3XKu/s6000/nadine-shaabana-anXB3AhQcJ0-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEMcdOpJCv28lgxZK2SzdGIle3-0nuSYvJjLE699r90kJWyBFuFJBvbbygm-opShY57Z61luqcEauzvS2VgceiiGyXXW5lde-TPRDlfYMNu2CIEDaSrSvoZHGIGrGd3vrNBDAjl3FhGsL1Qt1SK_IOew1t4NrPeKlfb26h4MFpCiUfD4bqd05mCJ_g3XKu/s320/nadine-shaabana-anXB3AhQcJ0-unsplash.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br />Conclusion</h4><p>It's time to celebrate the strengths of autism and shift the narrative from a deficit-based approach to one that highlights the exceptional talents and abilities of individuals on the autism spectrum. Their attention to detail, creativity, problem-solving abilities, in-depth knowledge, and unique perspectives are gifts that should be recognized, appreciated, and nurtured. By fostering an inclusive society that embraces and celebrates these strengths, we create opportunities for individuals with autism to flourish and make significant contributions. Let's unite to celebrate the remarkable strengths of autism and unleash the true power within each individual.</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-29795248320737967182023-08-21T13:00:00.007+01:002023-08-21T13:00:00.140+01:00Navigating Life with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: My Personal Journey<p> So, in this blog I generally like to try to stick to the topic of Autism, how it affects me, tips and tricks and sometimes we go into other topics surrounding neurodiversity. But today is another one of those days where I talk about my personal life, my struggles, successes and failures. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p>Today, I want to dive into a topic that hits close to home for me: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Living with this condition can be incredibly challenging, both physically and emotionally. As someone who battles CFS every day, I want to share my experiences, shed light on the struggles we face, and provide insights into living a fulfilling life despite the hurdles. So, grab a cosy seat, take a deep breath, and let's embark on this journey together.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFUJA-HIZDqYnOLghaYiXEScQI2q9RUsEG6q5hqjVX-JZqWGpnApZy81oKeUz24JBI7XstzKUGq65SFP2_9M16Exe5SHwLh5-zTqlpk1aKBf62LjHWRrd7gHiEbkTKQjQ3KDq9Yf1-2vT5hk7ALyReiptfqvZrd6YSZKNSgF0GheczNPwnDrWOmqzbW3p0/s5926/pexels-nataliya-vaitkevich-6837638.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3951" data-original-width="5926" height="236" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhFUJA-HIZDqYnOLghaYiXEScQI2q9RUsEG6q5hqjVX-JZqWGpnApZy81oKeUz24JBI7XstzKUGq65SFP2_9M16Exe5SHwLh5-zTqlpk1aKBf62LjHWRrd7gHiEbkTKQjQ3KDq9Yf1-2vT5hk7ALyReiptfqvZrd6YSZKNSgF0GheczNPwnDrWOmqzbW3p0/w355-h236/pexels-nataliya-vaitkevich-6837638.jpg" width="355" /></a></div><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Invisible Battle: Unveiling the Mysteries of CFS</h4><p>Living with an invisible illness like CFS is incredibly isolating for many of us who struggle on a daily basis. I think it is made harder with the fact that on the outside I look fine, I can walk for the most part, I can smile, sing, and go about my daily life without any obvious evidence there is something "wrong" with me. If you saw me, walking on the street, mixing into the crowd, you wouldn't see a crippled man, a man fighting a battle with his own body. You would simply see another man going about his business.</p><p>But what you may not see is the constant fatigue, cognitive difficulties, and physical limitations I face. You don't see the 10-plus hours in bed a night, the massive number of pills I need to take to manage my condition, you don't get to see the nights I cry to myself because I wish it would all go away. In my case, I need to take to keep myself level-headed. You don't even get to see the self-harm scars, the times when I would hurt myself just to feel something other than fatigue. You don't see the times I tried to take my own life because I didn't think I was strong enough. </p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Daily Struggle: Navigating Life with Limited Energy</h4><p>Oh, the relentless fatigue! I can't even begin to explain to you how I feel on a regular basis. The hardest part is the fact that no matter how much planning, no matter how much I try to work out how much I can do, the condition is unpredictable. From one day to the next, from one hour to the next. Today I planned to stream twice, but the second stream didn't happen. Because after all was said and done, I just could not face being on camera for a second time. </p><p>One thing that you get told from the very start is the need to pace yourself, the need to conserve energy, and the need to leave some spoons in the bank. But that isn't always possible. There are days when either I need or want to do more than I ideally should. No matter if I'm wanting to go for a night out, or if I need to get on top of housework. There are just times when more is needed than I have to give. And those days are the worst. </p><p>There are so many things that I want to go on to do, so many things that I would love to accomplish, but I fear that I'm going to be limited for the rest of my life. No matter my drive, no matter my hopes and dreams, I'm going to struggle to achieve all that I could. This already happened to me in regard to work. I can't work, not because I am unable, but because it leaves me with so little energy that I can not live a comfortable life outside of work. </p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Emotional Rollercoaster: Dealing with Frustration and Uncertainty</h4><p>Living with CFS is not just physically draining; it also takes an immense toll on mental and emotional well-being. There are some very strong feelings that come with the condition. No matter how affected someone is by the condition we are faced with the same questions. In many ways, it is not unlike the process of grieving the loss of a loved one. But in this case, I'm grieving the loss of the life that I could have had if it wasn't for the condition. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQNentR3-oz6ZQ3AInzAvdA-LDovv7qNqdsbbjHN0J8Q8x8IZUl14fmS00txhSX-aAl4I4YIn9HUTXVRfzXHBXP_VWQ6-awukob5ymE2E3IGOnL59P2higBXBzQO9cSAJK2-kidsqym_jMp4nr44IvCGD31LgtS-MpMgcW_sRpjXOwHgn304M9tD9psuQ6/s6000/pexels-liza-summer-6382634.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQNentR3-oz6ZQ3AInzAvdA-LDovv7qNqdsbbjHN0J8Q8x8IZUl14fmS00txhSX-aAl4I4YIn9HUTXVRfzXHBXP_VWQ6-awukob5ymE2E3IGOnL59P2higBXBzQO9cSAJK2-kidsqym_jMp4nr44IvCGD31LgtS-MpMgcW_sRpjXOwHgn304M9tD9psuQ6/s320/pexels-liza-summer-6382634.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p><br /></p><p>The truth is, I knew something was wrong long before I got a diagnosis. Long before the doctors would listen to me, I knew that something was changing. It didn't happen all at once. But over the course of around 18 months, I went from a healthy adult, who was cycling well into the thripple digit miles per week to someone who struggled to even stand for long periods of time. To someone who struggled to walk freely unaided. It was such a subtle shift that I didn't even know it was happening at the time. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Struggles</h4><p>We will talk more about the struggles of getting a diagnosis in the next section, but for now, we will just say that it is a difficult long process. But even once that process is done, what are we left with? We have a condition that is life-limiting, painful, and exhausting, a condition that has no form of treatment. The only treatment available for it is to simply do less with our lives. To simply change the entire way we live our life, what we do, and how we spend our time. </p><p>Then comes the waves of self-hatred, self-pity, the questions, why me? What did I do to deserve this? Why do I have to live my life like this? And if we are particularly unlucky we will have family members who don't believe us, who don't understand the condition. We get called lazy, useless, and a drain on society. Some people seem to think that if they demean us enough that we will somehow be cured of our condition. But, that isn't the way any of this works.</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Navigating the Medical Maze: Seeking Diagnosis and Treatment</h4><p>One of the greatest struggles for individuals with CFS is the journey to diagnosis and finding effective treatment options. The truth for me is despite the fact that I became highly active in my teen years, constant chronic pain, a bewildering deep-seated level of constant exhaustion and a battle with confusion and a range of other symptoms plagued much of my late childhood and teenage years. I got my diagnosis at the age of 23 despite struggling with the symptoms for well over half my life. </p><p>Some of my earliest memories are of me telling my dad that I was in pain or that I didn't want to go for a walk because I was tired. He would respond in his usual dismissive tone calling me fat, lazy, bone-idle, mard and any other insult he could think of at the time. I feel this is something that I will never forget and is one reason why I struggle to have a good relationship with my dad even to this day. </p><p>As a quick side note my dad has not changed, he still frequently insults me regarding a number of issues I face, usually around my weight or lack of physical activity but also due to the fact I don't and can't work and the fact that I am on state benefits. My mum on the other hand, despite the fact we have many disagreements, despite the fact that we argue often is now and has always been nothing other than supportive and understanding and for that, I can not thank her enough. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">Misconceptions</h4><p>This leads well into the next thing I want to talk about, and that is the misconceptions that many people have about me and other people with my condition. We do not have bruises, we don't have casts and often don't have wheelchairs or anything of the like. It can cause issues, like using disabled parking, adapting bathrooms out in public and generally just getting mean and untrue comments from people as wide-ranging as family members to friends to random members of the public who think their opinion is needed. </p><p>Even medical professionals can fall into that trap, it is really challenging to find a doctor that not only believes in the condition but also who is willing to try to understand and find effective forms of treatment. I've had everyone from psychiatrists to physiotherapists tell me that I need to do more. But it is well-known and widely accepted that the best way to deal with and live with the condition is to pace yourself, take frequent breaks, and learn to live a more sedentary lifestyle. </p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Building a Supportive Network: The Power of Connection</h4><p>Having a strong support system is crucial for anyone living with CFS. We get told this time and time again. By our friends, by our families, by our doctors, but it feels like for me at least. None of these people telling me to build a support network want to be in my support network. So the question has to be asked, who exactly are you supposed to include. </p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiIu3y42scHxDS_GTrouqw2N9KrOiSj1LDCf2lXcXTgoBZTYC-jgo_qSfzw5-zO0zACEUkUYlDySW_5bF1GSfL8hIBHAZti0N5anRfB_cN738ThY-tJnY7xj6xaAbHfQnOuehySyigILgFd17xgmmseD7AGiFiD3uY9ZpuWjtIdP3K5iGybgirAaTzVwg1J/s6720/pexels-monstera-5384623.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="222" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiIu3y42scHxDS_GTrouqw2N9KrOiSj1LDCf2lXcXTgoBZTYC-jgo_qSfzw5-zO0zACEUkUYlDySW_5bF1GSfL8hIBHAZti0N5anRfB_cN738ThY-tJnY7xj6xaAbHfQnOuehySyigILgFd17xgmmseD7AGiFiD3uY9ZpuWjtIdP3K5iGybgirAaTzVwg1J/w333-h222/pexels-monstera-5384623.jpg" width="333" /></a></div><p><br /></p><p>I feel this is the hardest part of dealing with this god-awful condition, you see, there is no way for you to know what it is like to have this condition. You can read about it, study it, and even go as far as to get a medical degree. But, even after all that if you are not the person dealing with the condition there is no way for you to know what it is like for those of us who deal with it on a daily basis. </p><p>That's the real hard part about having this condition, it is so very isolating, it is so very lonesome. No matter how much we try to interact with "normal" people, no matter how much we push ourselves to be like a "normal" person. We are not normal people, we can not do what normal people do, no matter how much we try to push ourselves to be like everyone else. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Struggle Continues</h4><p>So that then leads to the next thought, there are only a small number of people who can truly understand. And, those are other people who struggle with the same condition. But, the problem is, how does one offer support to another while also going through the same battle, with the same struggles. But it is also important to set boundaries, to make it clear to others when your energy is low, your body is unwilling and your mind is unclear.</p><p>It is one thing to take care of oneself, but it is entirely a different thing to take care of another while facing struggles that would cripple the average person. But yet, we do it. Through in-person groups, phone calls and messages and even as far as creating and maintaining vast networks of support through social media. </p><p>We do it all, not always because we have the energy to spare, not always because we want to. But because we know what it is like to struggle through this condition on our own and wish to take away that difficulty from others. Together, we can find solace, share experiences, and uplift each other along the journey.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br /></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;">Final Thoughts</h4><p>Living with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is a battle that often goes unnoticed by the outside world. It's a journey filled with ups and downs, triumphs and setbacks. By sharing my personal experiences and shedding light on the struggles of CFS, I hope to create a space of empathy, understanding, and support. Whether you are personally affected by CFS or know someone who is, remember that compassion and awareness can make a world of difference. Together, we can strive for a more inclusive and supportive society, where the voices of those living with chronic illnesses are heard and valued.</p><p>Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Let's walk hand in hand, spreading awareness, and supporting each other every step of the way. Together, we are stronger.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-16403746150064579982023-08-07T13:00:00.000+01:002023-08-07T13:00:00.141+01:00Seeking Extra Support: It's Okay Not to Be Okay<p>Life can be challenging, and navigating the world as an autistic individual presents unique experiences and obstacles. While embracing our strengths and celebrating our differences is crucial, it's also essential to acknowledge that everyone, including autistic individuals, may face times when additional support is needed. In this blog post, we will discuss the importance of seeking extra support as an autistic person, recognizing when it's okay not to be okay, and understanding when and how to reach out for assistance.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Rdp-W5WUncAYv5S17ggzM8zRIwWfygn0ldo7v9Lzo5uAhpx2mu0tvuZhIIeBPKwO8vemZfQ3grjrt7Zdt12olJ-lmWWjq0gHdCDai1asELBvXln_hRVyBJV_AI-kHdACpghpVJVJ2usOsrRU9B--5obtsKobrAHa3UsNlMl4xAFh5yue2fjk-qmMy06F/s6000/pexels-s%C3%86%C2%A1n-ba%CC%81%C2%BB%C2%9Dm-1773113.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3376" data-original-width="6000" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1Rdp-W5WUncAYv5S17ggzM8zRIwWfygn0ldo7v9Lzo5uAhpx2mu0tvuZhIIeBPKwO8vemZfQ3grjrt7Zdt12olJ-lmWWjq0gHdCDai1asELBvXln_hRVyBJV_AI-kHdACpghpVJVJ2usOsrRU9B--5obtsKobrAHa3UsNlMl4xAFh5yue2fjk-qmMy06F/s320/pexels-s%C3%86%C2%A1n-ba%CC%81%C2%BB%C2%9Dm-1773113.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Acknowledge Your Emotions</h4><p>Being autistic doesn't mean you're immune to emotions or the difficulties that life can bring. It's important to acknowledge and validate your feelings, whether they are related to the challenges of navigating social situations, sensory overload, or the impact of external stressors. Recognize that it's okay not to be okay and that seeking support is a sign of strength and self-care.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Recognize the Signs</h4><p>Take the time to become aware of the signs that indicate when you may need extra support. This could include experiencing heightened anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, struggling with sensory sensitivities, or noticing a decline in your mental well-being. Recognizing these signs allows you to proactively address your needs and seek assistance when necessary.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Build a Support Network</h4><p>Surround yourself with a supportive network of individuals who understand and accept you for who you are. This network can include family, friends, support groups, therapists, or professionals who specialize in working with autistic individuals. Having a safe space to share your thoughts and emotions can provide comfort and reassurance during challenging times.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Seek Professional Help</h4><p>Professional support can play a crucial role in assisting autistic individuals during challenging periods. Therapists, counsellors, or psychologists with experience in autism can provide valuable guidance and strategies for managing emotions, developing coping mechanisms, and improving overall well-being. Feel free to reach out to these professionals when you feel the need for extra support.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikszk9PJSXh00Cw8S-Z6LheXf4OpD5KscaZLzFBxYeKUep4ELswDF1jxtrWAYzZWYtBAvo8Wyr3aQIuy-XYhpU34TLQT2UhMUMRl313Jv4x6TqtLE8FmIet3ltNNbXqy2PFEf5qS_vTjdPTRowpAys04L7XNK2wLZjoji2QEy7lns2DcEsjtWohgMtd0QV/s6000/pexels-alex-green-5699431.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikszk9PJSXh00Cw8S-Z6LheXf4OpD5KscaZLzFBxYeKUep4ELswDF1jxtrWAYzZWYtBAvo8Wyr3aQIuy-XYhpU34TLQT2UhMUMRl313Jv4x6TqtLE8FmIet3ltNNbXqy2PFEf5qS_vTjdPTRowpAys04L7XNK2wLZjoji2QEy7lns2DcEsjtWohgMtd0QV/s320/pexels-alex-green-5699431.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Utilize Online Communities</h4><p>Online communities and forums specifically tailored for autistic individuals can offer a virtual support system where you can connect with others who share similar experiences. Engaging in these communities can provide a sense of belonging, validation, and a space to share challenges, seek advice, and gain valuable insights from others who may have faced similar struggles.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Develop Self-Care Strategies</h4><p>Self-care is vital for everyone, including autistic individuals. Explore and develop self-care strategies that work for you, as they can help alleviate stress, improve mental well-being, and enhance overall quality of life. This could include engaging in activities that bring you joy, practising mindfulness or meditation, pursuing special interests, or setting boundaries to protect your mental and emotional well-being.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Embrace Advocacy</h4><p>Advocate for yourself and your needs by communicating openly and assertively. Educate others about your experiences and help them understand how they can support you. By becoming an advocate for yourself, you empower others to be more accepting and accommodating, while also fostering a sense of self-empowerment.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Conclusion</h4><p>As an autistic individual, it's essential to recognise that seeking extra support is not a sign of weakness, but rather an act of self-care and resilience. Understanding when it's okay not to be okay and reaching out for assistance when needed is a courageous step towards prioritising your mental and emotional well-being. Embrace the support networks available to you, whether they are personal connections, professionals, or online communities. Remember, you are not alone, and seeking extra support is an integral part of your journey toward self-discovery, growth, and overall well-being.</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-1324932894372387752023-07-31T13:00:00.008+01:002023-07-31T13:00:00.140+01:00Finding Your Tribe: An Autistic Guide to Making Friends<p> Finding genuine connections and building meaningful friendships can be a fulfilling and rewarding experience for everyone, including autistic individuals. However, navigating social interactions can present unique challenges. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of finding the right people to be friends with as an autistic person and provide some practical tips to help you navigate the journey of building authentic connections and finding your tribe.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Embrace Your Authentic Self</h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6ejDhFVsY-wF51v9Q9FwLzuFBxdgVDQgS7iExb13ztw5VcgianwC-vdrdZWX2H_6ZDWtrdKH09TOS6B9gJFvvYdbhBHvl5FlidmRl32dvHkyKfR61u6sY-1r1K0ZHVxno_v04m1GfZTHwhp1berQ3RPNbN4JODduVWhforo5ssVXyDJnDvcksk0IqTPQj/s5892/alex-shute-NpMsxx1XE08-unsplash.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3928" data-original-width="5892" height="235" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6ejDhFVsY-wF51v9Q9FwLzuFBxdgVDQgS7iExb13ztw5VcgianwC-vdrdZWX2H_6ZDWtrdKH09TOS6B9gJFvvYdbhBHvl5FlidmRl32dvHkyKfR61u6sY-1r1K0ZHVxno_v04m1GfZTHwhp1berQ3RPNbN4JODduVWhforo5ssVXyDJnDvcksk0IqTPQj/w353-h235/alex-shute-NpMsxx1XE08-unsplash.jpg" width="353" /></a></div><div><br /></div><p>Authenticity is the foundation for genuine connections. Embrace your autistic identity and be proud of who you are. Recognize that your unique perspective and experiences bring value to friendships. By embracing your authentic self, you attract like-minded individuals who appreciate and accept you for who you are.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Seek Out Common Interests</b></p><p>Shared interests serve as a powerful bonding tool when making friends. Explore activities, hobbies, or special interests that align with your passions. Engaging in these activities allows you to connect with individuals who share similar interests, creating a natural platform for conversation, collaboration, and the potential for lasting friendships.</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Join Autistic Communities and Support Groups</h4><p>Connecting with other autistic individuals can be immensely beneficial in finding your tribe. Join online communities, forums, or support groups specifically tailored for autistic individuals. These spaces provide a supportive environment where you can interact with like-minded individuals, share experiences, exchange advice, and potentially build long-lasting friendships.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFtq3eNKiJ1cAq__SNQ6vINpOlNckxN72JJDT-INT7eB3isUH-VlZ8cauuzZm_Dw4PSio_ibTsH_DmUe_57fuOuZBE-4XpjWWQkbK4DP4Dj50S6KNGxbW-hER7kwnYOYniyP7Ll9I3MFg4k6zIgTRTci2F600nn8TABYCsa1bxgJxEi8frHhRemWgxbgbV/s7678/annie-spratt-hCb3lIB8L8E-unsplash.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5038" data-original-width="7678" height="230" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFtq3eNKiJ1cAq__SNQ6vINpOlNckxN72JJDT-INT7eB3isUH-VlZ8cauuzZm_Dw4PSio_ibTsH_DmUe_57fuOuZBE-4XpjWWQkbK4DP4Dj50S6KNGxbW-hER7kwnYOYniyP7Ll9I3MFg4k6zIgTRTci2F600nn8TABYCsa1bxgJxEi8frHhRemWgxbgbV/w351-h230/annie-spratt-hCb3lIB8L8E-unsplash.jpg" width="351" /></a></div><b><p style="text-align: center;"><b><br /></b></p>Practice Effective Communication</b><p></p><p>Effective communication is essential in building meaningful connections. As an autistic individual, you may have unique communication preferences or styles. Be open and honest about your communication needs and boundaries. Encourage open and respectful dialogue with potential friends, ensuring that both parties feel heard and understood.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Recognize Quality Over Quantity</b></p><p>When it comes to friendships, quality trumps quantity. Focus on building deep, meaningful connections with a few individuals rather than striving for a large social circle. Look for friends who genuinely understand and accept you, who support your growth, and who bring positivity into your life. These friendships are more likely to withstand the test of time and provide a sense of belonging.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Practice Self-Advocacy</b></p><p>Advocate for your needs and boundaries when forging new friendships. As an autistic individual, it's important to communicate your specific requirements and ensure that potential friends respect and accommodate them. Surround yourself with individuals who appreciate and embrace your unique traits and who are willing to learn and understand more about autism.</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMGs6H5Ci_2kysHvzxwGin3CMzLwZp1muyqfAdcqklEBGVGPxFVItTGmPyRtXamg_-_nux8l9jIr---DF6pRGlCb_58er0DoSy4hooaOpKOQi9rZ4ThoDCLpgz3qGpaHY-BTL0QjUuujzOeL6DZQGwL79AdrbEjXLj0NBmdk7fS2fKFE5rjuFM8bOBrrMY/s6016/pexels-tirachard-kumtanom-601170.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4016" data-original-width="6016" height="228" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMGs6H5Ci_2kysHvzxwGin3CMzLwZp1muyqfAdcqklEBGVGPxFVItTGmPyRtXamg_-_nux8l9jIr---DF6pRGlCb_58er0DoSy4hooaOpKOQi9rZ4ThoDCLpgz3qGpaHY-BTL0QjUuujzOeL6DZQGwL79AdrbEjXLj0NBmdk7fS2fKFE5rjuFM8bOBrrMY/w341-h228/pexels-tirachard-kumtanom-601170.jpg" width="341" /></a></div><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Patience and Understanding</b></p><p>Building friendships takes time, patience, and understanding. Be kind to yourself throughout the process and recognize that not every interaction will result in a deep connection. Friendships develop organically, and it's important to give them space to grow naturally. Be patient, keep an open mind, and allow yourself to forge connections at a pace that feels comfortable for you.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Conclusion</b></p><p>Finding your tribe as an autistic person involves seeking genuine connections, embracing your authentic self, and fostering relationships built on understanding, acceptance, and shared interests. By surrounding yourself with individuals who appreciate and value you for who you are, you create a supportive network of friends who uplift and empower you. Remember that building friendships is a journey, and it's okay to take it at your own pace. Trust in yourself, embrace the possibilities, and let the journey of finding your tribe unfold naturally.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-46399198405937465342023-07-24T13:00:00.001+01:002023-07-24T13:00:00.143+01:00Taking Care of You: Self-care as an Autistic<p>Self-care is a vital aspect of overall well-being for individuals of all backgrounds, including those on the autism spectrum. As an autistic person, it's essential to recognize your unique needs and challenges and prioritize self-care practices that promote your physical, emotional, and mental health. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of self-care specifically tailored to autistic individuals and provide practical tips to help you navigate your self-care journey.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpDY9LaTZ0UKJBWGHOnTjo-a9oCXrh-vUlbZjhTK_BcZZqhzVwYjrMrb8FIgPMOD-TKd_bBzhIzSlKi6UpNBqbKVcA98f7vgaQZTon3AkeunWLj1cqbkkqtydEYnsIEzjj4sQe0DrGGymf7CsfKVeVUs9uEIS5Lsp626GqTB51qZDveZ7DukFhENVzBi_5/s7421/annie-spratt-nP9J7O90HfY-unsplash.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4947" data-original-width="7421" height="221" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgpDY9LaTZ0UKJBWGHOnTjo-a9oCXrh-vUlbZjhTK_BcZZqhzVwYjrMrb8FIgPMOD-TKd_bBzhIzSlKi6UpNBqbKVcA98f7vgaQZTon3AkeunWLj1cqbkkqtydEYnsIEzjj4sQe0DrGGymf7CsfKVeVUs9uEIS5Lsp626GqTB51qZDveZ7DukFhENVzBi_5/w332-h221/annie-spratt-nP9J7O90HfY-unsplash.jpg" width="332" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Understanding Your Sensory Needs</h4><p>Sensory sensitivity is a common trait among many autistic individuals. Identifying your specific sensory sensitivities and preferences is crucial for effective self-care. Consider creating a sensory-friendly environment in your living space, incorporating elements that bring you comfort and calmness. This may include using earplugs or headphones to minimize auditory stimulation, using soft lighting or natural light, and surrounding yourself with textures or objects that provide sensory comfort.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Embracing Special Interests</h4><p>Special interests, often intense and focused areas of passion, are a significant aspect of autism. Engaging in activities related to your special interests can be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling. Whether it's exploring a particular subject, engaging in a creative outlet, or diving deep into a hobby, allocating time for your special interests can serve as a form of self-care. It allows you to experience joy, dive into a state of flow, and nurture your unique strengths and talents.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Developing Routines</h4><p>Routines can provide a sense of structure, stability, and predictability, which can be particularly beneficial for autistic individuals. Establishing daily routines can help reduce anxiety and provide a sense of control over your environment. Create a schedule that incorporates activities such as self-care rituals, leisure time, and breaks to recharge. Remember to be flexible and adapt your routines as needed, allowing for spontaneity and adjustments when necessary.</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNa4hIQrw7G5q1flzv5lAX3wyqINUpzWtcIYjVTHWSoXaVz0XLbWWfQidRMw8r02hodNobcQEXN1uT36UdbNLeHd8aJx5rbs9usfnfnSuXNHVbLCN8jecvyy35r_fC2yjMzqRtYlKK8Laag3BuaNCgucCpJPsrS1QL-_VObB2NinyzEJbM0M9JH7SD26h0/s6720/pexels-tara-winstead-8386139.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4480" data-original-width="6720" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNa4hIQrw7G5q1flzv5lAX3wyqINUpzWtcIYjVTHWSoXaVz0XLbWWfQidRMw8r02hodNobcQEXN1uT36UdbNLeHd8aJx5rbs9usfnfnSuXNHVbLCN8jecvyy35r_fC2yjMzqRtYlKK8Laag3BuaNCgucCpJPsrS1QL-_VObB2NinyzEJbM0M9JH7SD26h0/w403-h268/pexels-tara-winstead-8386139.jpg" width="403" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Practising Emotional Regulation</h4><p>Emotional regulation can be challenging for many autistic individuals due to difficulties in processing and expressing emotions. Incorporating strategies to support emotional well-being is crucial. Explore techniques such as deep breathing exercises, mindfulness, journaling, or engaging in activities that help you process and express emotions, such as art or music. Seek support from therapists, counsellors, or support groups specialising in autism to develop effective coping mechanisms tailored to your needs.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Prioritizing Sensory Relief</h4><p>The sensory world can be overwhelming for autistic individuals, leading to sensory overload and heightened stress levels. Finding ways to manage sensory input and provide relief is essential. Experiment with sensory tools or techniques that help regulate your sensory systems, such as weighted blankets, fidget toys, and noise-canceling headphones, or engage in activities that promote relaxation, such as taking baths, listening to calming music, or spending time in nature.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Nurturing Social Connections</h4><p>While it's essential to acknowledge and respect your need for solitude and personal space, maintaining social connections can positively impact your well-being. Seek out supportive friends, family members, or online communities where you can engage with like-minded individuals who understand and appreciate your experiences. Participating in social activities that align with your interests can provide a sense of belonging and foster meaningful connections.</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJSRBdfTLMNq82wY5eIQYKu6Ws875zG_gBTJOGL-7m10CE-w-NmFbqWO1lzOITgDAfxa3RlvzdF8fqmyt3cB3lEu8DDtwIvIs_CC-jgmE4MmU1N4rNvkQ8C2eXSXal6ww6XfQg1pcwO-Wcml3jH2GI0aV2cy9Pplz1K5gCcXLdAvP4ssXkq5xD5RRpfmwA/s5998/pexels-afta-putta-gunawan-1036804.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3999" data-original-width="5998" height="239" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJSRBdfTLMNq82wY5eIQYKu6Ws875zG_gBTJOGL-7m10CE-w-NmFbqWO1lzOITgDAfxa3RlvzdF8fqmyt3cB3lEu8DDtwIvIs_CC-jgmE4MmU1N4rNvkQ8C2eXSXal6ww6XfQg1pcwO-Wcml3jH2GI0aV2cy9Pplz1K5gCcXLdAvP4ssXkq5xD5RRpfmwA/w359-h239/pexels-afta-putta-gunawan-1036804.jpg" width="359" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Conclusion</h4><p>Taking care of yourself as an autistic individual is a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-advocacy. Embrace your unique needs, preferences, and strengths, and prioritize self-care practices that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Remember that self-care is not selfish; it is an act of self-love and preservation that allows you to thrive and lead a fulfilling life. By embracing self-care as an autistic, you empower yourself to navigate the world with confidence, authenticity, and resilience.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-25449447575136254682023-07-17T13:00:00.000+01:002023-07-17T13:00:00.136+01:00A Night Out<p>Well, guys, it finally happened, for the first time since I went sober I decided to go on a night out. Know how it is, these places serve alcohol and for the longest time I did want to take the risk of going somewhere when I would be tired and there was alcohol.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><h4 style="text-align: center;">Night Time</h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRpVTx4UNR-p6z_XsePDozqNItsn0QrBSBgdWlMO4wVcm9LHVck1C5Qyy1Vm7BbUT8FIE-aC-V7uO76h9JerU06rxvHlQAiDQCdewJJjxpRYJz2FPhMGWzrV9GVsFGNbTUZ2ErAxSVk1nOFZkLRWIT4MjQ-H2EJPPj4b7tTT7ekKesSxcnjY9CzXmimK5n/s4928/pexels-isabella-mendes-1304475.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3264" data-original-width="4928" height="238" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRpVTx4UNR-p6z_XsePDozqNItsn0QrBSBgdWlMO4wVcm9LHVck1C5Qyy1Vm7BbUT8FIE-aC-V7uO76h9JerU06rxvHlQAiDQCdewJJjxpRYJz2FPhMGWzrV9GVsFGNbTUZ2ErAxSVk1nOFZkLRWIT4MjQ-H2EJPPj4b7tTT7ekKesSxcnjY9CzXmimK5n/w359-h238/pexels-isabella-mendes-1304475.jpg" width="359" /></a></div><p>The truth is I shouldn't have really been concerned about that because the truth is I didn't feel the need to drink once. Although there were times when I wish I was drinking and that is what this post is going to be about. Where I live night time is a time for romps behaviour, lots of alcohol, and obviously the type of activities that go on when one would drink. </p><p>There are often fights, solicitation, and general drunken shenanigans. But there is always something wonderful, friendships, adult conversation, music, dancing. Not always good dancing but dancing nonetheless. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Temptation of Alcohol and Social Lubrication</h4><p>So here comes the part about wanting to drink. the advantage of drinking is the fact that it is a great social lubricant and lowers inhibition, which can be a good thing and a bad thing. But at the end of the day, it is one of those things that can really help in some situations. </p><p>What you may have guessed from that is in this case there was a girl, she looked nice, not over the top, not crazy makeup, just a normal woman, she had a great smile and I wanted to go and ask for her number. Something I would have done if I had been drinking but, without the drink, I don't have the confidence or the words to be doing such things. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Difficulty in meeting New People</h4><p>That's the joys of social anxiety, I'm pretty good with words, I mean here I am using my words right now. I don't feel a massive need to go and use large words when it is not needed but I have them when they are needed. But I just stumble over myself, mentally when it comes to going outside of my comfort zone. Talking to new people is something that is pretty well known for us autistics, and the loud music and approaching someone who is with their friends make it a harder obstacle to overcome. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgY2hw1aDkw4el3M6ONoaBBlrruqlLdU2jEWJsFdFmECJxuw4cNzDNGgPd846WillJ5_AO1IIq-NJzaQR9AZNV2kQjM8Wr2283vkN75Mpgg6G120IDn4ZfoHA52n_Euh7hCadg4HlfxitGZuic-F6K0VqyRjFB6P7vs7o_T5g7UT5_xl9LxueRiCvbREMhi/s2592/pexels-john-matthew-3537900.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1728" data-original-width="2592" height="222" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgY2hw1aDkw4el3M6ONoaBBlrruqlLdU2jEWJsFdFmECJxuw4cNzDNGgPd846WillJ5_AO1IIq-NJzaQR9AZNV2kQjM8Wr2283vkN75Mpgg6G120IDn4ZfoHA52n_Euh7hCadg4HlfxitGZuic-F6K0VqyRjFB6P7vs7o_T5g7UT5_xl9LxueRiCvbREMhi/w333-h222/pexels-john-matthew-3537900.jpg" width="333" /></a></div><p>You see, this is one of those things that you can't really just overcome, you learn to live with it often, but at the end of the day you just have to chalk it up to it being the way you are and there's not much you can really do to "fix" that. so that leads one to the question of, how do you go about meeting new people. Well in many cases you meet friends through work, through other friends, or through common situations, like social groups, classes, etc. </p><p>For me that is not really a possibility most of the time, I mean not only am I autistic but I also struggle both with my mental and physical health in a way that leads to going out and doing things to be a challenge. Pain, fatigue, and a whole host of mental barriers lead me to simply give up on the idea of going out frequently and doing what I want to do.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;"><b>Longing for Connection</b></h4><p>It once had really bothered me, but over the years I have come to accept it and move on. I mean I have a great group of online friends and a small but dependable group of real-life friends. It means that although I don't get the thrill of meeting new people, the chances of gaining kinship and dare I say it... love. I'm pretty comfortable and content with the way my life is going. </p><p>I guess the thing is, when you live your life in the way I live you come to expect that you don't get many invites, you don't get to meet many people. In some ways, this tends to help me stay comfortable. I have a routine, I know what to expect from the people that are in my life. But, sometimes, and only sometimes it leaves me longing for more...</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, </p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec.</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-73633214663290421982023-07-10T13:00:00.014+01:002023-07-10T13:00:00.138+01:00RIP To My Best Friend<p>So, I have rewrote this intro so many times I have lost count and I just think I will never be happy with it. My cat died, and I have to say it has been pretty rough this past week, which is why there hasn't been any content out on the blogs.<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Introducing Noonie</h4><p>We got "Noonie" nuts when I was just a young boy, and the truth is I don't remember a time when je wasn't in my life. From my earliest memories, he was there, comforting me, playing with me, a true best friend. </p><h4 style="text-align: center;">A True Best Friend</h4><p>It may be hard for some people to understand, but when I was younger I didn't have human friends, people were not interested in being around me. I'm not sure if it was my autism, the way I was as a person or something else. But people my own age weren't interested in me and if I'm being honest I wasn't all that interested in them either. </p><p>The truth is I don't remember how I felt when we got him, but I remember how I felt when he passed. I was, and continue to be heartbroken, I often carried him around like a baby. Fed him, and even changed his litter tray when he used one. As he got older he preferred to go outside and I was rather happy with that. </p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOUBC1KQ1E5rSJxzIEBASsz-ACrDnkkL6-0q0HqvstDhr9HThLM8ef4axfhFY7XdgvJ7yxI1yKlUYLX5iO_MELW6Vs1MKBtdS9_VAUktsmJOqa0ne0-4miltY3DUhP6OGI8QoAGXU1zH8duOJ3U3lPB0bUU5O9dGlvmG5GX6yPWUebCKlxlIBaIWKgQDI/s2268/20230626_183510.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2019" data-original-width="2268" height="291" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOUBC1KQ1E5rSJxzIEBASsz-ACrDnkkL6-0q0HqvstDhr9HThLM8ef4axfhFY7XdgvJ7yxI1yKlUYLX5iO_MELW6Vs1MKBtdS9_VAUktsmJOqa0ne0-4miltY3DUhP6OGI8QoAGXU1zH8duOJ3U3lPB0bUU5O9dGlvmG5GX6yPWUebCKlxlIBaIWKgQDI/w327-h291/20230626_183510.JPG" width="327" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>I grew up with him in my life, there are so many times that I was upset, hurt, sad, and in pain, so many times that he would be my source of comfort. I always knew this day would come. But I never really realised just the way it would affect me, but he had an incredible impression on me from very early in my life, many times I held him while I cried. And many times would you come and seek comfort in me when something was amiss. <p></p><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Hardest Decision</h4><p>Unfortunately, those times of you seeking comfort became frequent, and your time was coming to a close. We had been keeping a close eye on him over the last few months, knowing he was starting to struggle, starting to be more confused, less himself, more skittish, more anxious, he became slower, lost a great deal of weight. When I returned from holiday he was having periods of strange rattly breathing and it was then that I faced the hardest decision in my life. It was then that I realised <i>I </i>had to make the decision that it was time for your pass. I had always hoped you would go of your own accord, that someday you would simply pass like many of us humans do. But the truth is many of us suffer, our lives prolonged well beyond the time of sensible living and comfort. It is seen in much of the world that we should extend life as much as possible, but at what cost? </p><p>But I will never forget you. You were and always will be my best friend. I still listen to the last piece of music we listened to together, but it has a much greater meaning to me now. We listened to it often, and we listened to it as you took your last breath. For anyone who wishes to listen along, here's a <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b44-5M4e9nI">YouTube Link.</a></p><p>We are but motes of ash drifting through the winds of time. Trying to find our place in the universe.</p><p>As all things must begin, too must they end. Sometimes our drift is long, and sometimes it is short. But no matter, for our place, will be found. Your time is coming to an end, as the winds die down. So now I have one last request, to ask of thee. Know that you can rest now, settled as can be. Know that I am sorry, but now you will find your peace.</p><h3 style="text-align: center;">A Final Farewell</h3><p>So, please bid farewell to the old man. Full name, Ginger Nuts Biscuits. Noonie. A loved member of the family for almost 24 years. My best friend, companion, confidant, and most importantly someone I loved dearly. </p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrivTOKAUk-FTYcUSkfcsC3y5TRYn-33g7UVbs66h1yX0Ha5-9gCZYwKQ8Zt6pySZz_-FAzMNLTs3Xbs48iVRzEgY-NLtwFf0DvWdz3h4ZzDgxX8FSjIDJot3GoRufKkY-64Et5NZsNCUbbqczPlKN9ZQxYpTHGbGLZzeXy4dRhyT5V5IV73inr6AuqDM/s3037/20230704_220114.JPG" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1662" data-original-width="3037" height="175" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrivTOKAUk-FTYcUSkfcsC3y5TRYn-33g7UVbs66h1yX0Ha5-9gCZYwKQ8Zt6pySZz_-FAzMNLTs3Xbs48iVRzEgY-NLtwFf0DvWdz3h4ZzDgxX8FSjIDJot3GoRufKkY-64Et5NZsNCUbbqczPlKN9ZQxYpTHGbGLZzeXy4dRhyT5V5IV73inr6AuqDM/s320/20230704_220114.JPG" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Noonies final resting place</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Spec</div><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-68925624981429630562023-06-26T13:00:00.001+01:002023-06-26T13:00:00.137+01:00Supportive Friendships: The Power of Sharing Your Needs and Preferences<p>Hey there! When it comes to building friendships, one thing holds true: communication is absolutely key. As an autistic individual, you may have unique needs and preferences that shape how you interact with others. That's why it's so important to take the time to express yourself and share those needs with your friends and acquaintances. Trust me, it can make a world of difference!<span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjellOtzsajZbdSXb_HDgSZhrribu8OjeKjizS3NKysZCTY8eA-218Ob-Xga4filibsUJk5MmyeJpnL3bQcla2u9yf_JgK0fiMLzw1YMoUpogECnMYS9kpadxVH4M3-43D_KfV21r1_8URTmyolbhMGAVnBGLaItjQMPQic0P1-rYg9LE7WurHvFTtsg39P/s5998/pexels-afta-putta-gunawan-1036804.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3999" data-original-width="5998" height="267" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjellOtzsajZbdSXb_HDgSZhrribu8OjeKjizS3NKysZCTY8eA-218Ob-Xga4filibsUJk5MmyeJpnL3bQcla2u9yf_JgK0fiMLzw1YMoUpogECnMYS9kpadxVH4M3-43D_KfV21r1_8URTmyolbhMGAVnBGLaItjQMPQic0P1-rYg9LE7WurHvFTtsg39P/w401-h267/pexels-afta-putta-gunawan-1036804.jpg" width="401" /></a></div><h4 style="text-align: center;">Express Your Needs and Triggers</h4><p>We all have certain triggers or sensitivities, right? For example, certain sounds or textures might bother you more than they bother others. And that's totally okay! By letting your friends know about these triggers, you're giving them the chance to be more considerate and create a comfortable environment for everyone.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Communicate Your Preferred Style</h4><p>You might also have preferred methods of communication that work best for you. Maybe you find expressing yourself through written messages or gestures easier than relying solely on spoken words. By communicating your preferred communication style, you're helping others understand you better and fosters a stronger connection. Remember, good friends genuinely care and want to understand you on a deeper level.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Two-Way Street: Understanding and Accommodating</h4><p>Building strong friendships is a two-way street. While it's crucial to express your needs and preferences, it's equally important to be open to understanding and accommodating your friends' perspectives too. Mutual respect and active listening go hand in hand. By embracing the beauty of neurodiversity within your friendships, you create a space where everyone feels valued and respected.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Encourage Open Dialogue</h4><p>Let's make communication the foundation of our friendships. Encourage open dialogue and provide space for your friends to express their needs and preferences as well. Each person's experience is unique, and by embracing and celebrating our differences, we can build a truly supportive and inclusive social circle.</p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHnqIZG6uqpKUuK-3zeR6ufa4lBYac8rxbJK4OyEbU4ulg80E-EqfBRRmU6zkFqTtQu_CXG3lwKFhmP2whGYu13v3Pid7fX3DjGvxIwqqjLP_2VF6jxiLwZWc3Za3rsGY_lIATETX_IDVVM3rGvIjFDGmPsjxaoxTyZm8O_3i0sINZAwsE7B-eRA_kkO6G/s5617/pexels-elina-fairytale-4834142.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3744" data-original-width="5617" height="245" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHnqIZG6uqpKUuK-3zeR6ufa4lBYac8rxbJK4OyEbU4ulg80E-EqfBRRmU6zkFqTtQu_CXG3lwKFhmP2whGYu13v3Pid7fX3DjGvxIwqqjLP_2VF6jxiLwZWc3Za3rsGY_lIATETX_IDVVM3rGvIjFDGmPsjxaoxTyZm8O_3i0sINZAwsE7B-eRA_kkO6G/w368-h245/pexels-elina-fairytale-4834142.jpg" width="368" /></a></div><br /><h4 style="text-align: center;"><br />Cultivate Meaningful Connections</h4><p>Building and nurturing friendships takes time and effort from both sides. But with effective communication, empathy, and understanding, you can cultivate meaningful and supportive connections that enhance your well-being and enrich your life. So, don't hesitate to express yourself, be open to understanding others, and let the magic of communication strengthen your friendships.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Cheers to Strong Friendships</h4><p>Cheers to building fantastic friendships that make you feel truly understood and supported! Embrace communication as the pathway to stronger connections. By expressing your needs, accommodating others, and fostering open dialogue, you're creating a supportive social circle that celebrates the beauty of neurodiversity. So, let's raise a toast to meaningful friendships that stand the test of time. </p><p style="text-align: center;">Specs</p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-44219937803182592362023-06-19T13:00:00.009+01:002023-06-19T13:00:00.137+01:00Celebrating Neurodiversity: Embracing Your Unique Brilliance<p>Did you know that being neurodiverse is something truly special? It means that your brain is wired in a unique and wonderful way, offering a different lens through which you perceive and interact with the world. Embracing neurodiversity is all about recognizing and appreciating the strengths and unique perspectives that you bring to social interactions. So, let your true self shine and show the world the amazing gifts that come with being neurodiverse!</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><h4 style="text-align: center;">The Beauty of Neurodiversity</h4><p>Neurodiversity is not something to be ashamed of or to hide away. It is a beautiful and integral part of the rich tapestry of human diversity. Just like different colours in a painting or notes in a symphony, neurodiversity adds depth, complexity, and beauty to the world we live in. Your unique way of thinking, processing information, and engaging with the world is a gift that deserves celebration.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdOicsNPdSasVNPHpPNXqcKl1QccTZNQbrMO2vUBTXs40qEhYDjqam2mNnzHrq45-8PWyENmmxLGyOYtmhNsLDU1YcdMpv2fg4ojOHJTKCXVuOpPpHn_Ohry_AK9QgdzsfuA67eB8ka6LYajPchA4NQ7nuoVcgQI6-ienSaW2owV_5GzlExWZrc2E4CQ/s5184/pexels-david-cassolato-818563.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2916" data-original-width="5184" height="199" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdOicsNPdSasVNPHpPNXqcKl1QccTZNQbrMO2vUBTXs40qEhYDjqam2mNnzHrq45-8PWyENmmxLGyOYtmhNsLDU1YcdMpv2fg4ojOHJTKCXVuOpPpHn_Ohry_AK9QgdzsfuA67eB8ka6LYajPchA4NQ7nuoVcgQI6-ienSaW2owV_5GzlExWZrc2E4CQ/w353-h199/pexels-david-cassolato-818563.jpg" width="353" /></a></div><p>Embracing neurodiversity starts with recognizing and appreciating your own strengths and unique perspectives. Take a moment to reflect on the incredible qualities and abilities that make you who you are. Perhaps you have a remarkable eye for detail, a deep passion for a particular subject, or an exceptional ability to solve complex problems. These are not limitations; they are the building blocks of your brilliance.</p><h4 style="text-align: center;">Creating a more Inclusive World</h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw-BxcXOP7qFhrYuH2QTg9DK1RTiT7Ow8-aUkVieqhrtZ6NjMfLUbznWXJTa0szgNs6httPt3j3T8rBDmkle7kA6ZQA_OE030JWzVGy48pYhY96yA45GC9LIYVzS3Qc8JnS6uOjqvYIELQw5M0rP-XJ9qhijKaj8XoyDHRWGVAlyzevtNP8jljUvtSdQ/s5016/pexels-mikhail-nilov-8542538.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3348" data-original-width="5016" height="230" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhw-BxcXOP7qFhrYuH2QTg9DK1RTiT7Ow8-aUkVieqhrtZ6NjMfLUbznWXJTa0szgNs6httPt3j3T8rBDmkle7kA6ZQA_OE030JWzVGy48pYhY96yA45GC9LIYVzS3Qc8JnS6uOjqvYIELQw5M0rP-XJ9qhijKaj8XoyDHRWGVAlyzevtNP8jljUvtSdQ/w343-h230/pexels-mikhail-nilov-8542538.jpg" width="343" /></a></div><p><br /></p><p>It's important to let your light shine brightly and share your gifts with the world. Don't be afraid to express yourself, whether it's through art, writing, music, or any other creative outlet. Your unique perspective can bring fresh insights, innovative ideas, and transformative change. By sharing your authentic self, you inspire others to embrace their own uniqueness and create a more inclusive and accepting society.</p><p>Embracing neurodiversity also means advocating for understanding and acceptance. Educate those around you about the beauty and value of neurodiversity. Challenge misconceptions and stereotypes by sharing your experiences and engaging in open and honest conversations. Help others see the world through your eyes and foster a culture of empathy, compassion, and inclusivity.</p><p>In celebrating neurodiversity, we create a world that honours and embraces the full spectrum of human diversity. Let's celebrate the brilliance of neurodiversity, one unique mind at a time. So, go forth with confidence, embrace your neurodiversity, and make a positive impact on the world around you. You have the power to change hearts, minds, and perceptions. Together, let's celebrate the beauty of neurodiversity and create a more inclusive and accepting world for everyone.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, </p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec. </p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-31773882910186196382023-06-12T13:00:00.001+01:002023-06-12T13:00:00.140+01:00Embracing Your Unique Social Journey: Navigating Social Interactions as an Autistic Individual<p>Hey there, It's Spec! We're here to dive into the wonderful world of social interactions as an autistic individual. You may have noticed that your way of connecting with others is a bit different, and that's absolutely okay! In fact, it's something to be celebrated. So, let's embark on this journey together and explore the power of embracing your social differences.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzOPI36hYkofomlhwYK-BsMdx44AS8D6IO1MyleIzdYtU16Ehe-dhtJEJQHjOEQylQvesMwdCWBbC6XSIwL4OHcEhfNvlyJlf7hHs9nTO3D-WSQRFOzwahloN886YLoFhLydhCAgJ5zN-9chL7TXwIu0WKCilmnGf0q0VTd6zYJSjQZBOKLagq8uABIg/s5173/pexels-helena-lopes-708440.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3648" data-original-width="5173" height="303" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzOPI36hYkofomlhwYK-BsMdx44AS8D6IO1MyleIzdYtU16Ehe-dhtJEJQHjOEQylQvesMwdCWBbC6XSIwL4OHcEhfNvlyJlf7hHs9nTO3D-WSQRFOzwahloN886YLoFhLydhCAgJ5zN-9chL7TXwIu0WKCilmnGf0q0VTd6zYJSjQZBOKLagq8uABIg/w429-h303/pexels-helena-lopes-708440.jpg" width="429" /></a></div><p><br /></p><h4 style="color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Self-Acceptance: Embracing Your Authenticity</span></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;"><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">First things first, let's celebrate your authentic self. Your brain is wired in a beautifully unique way, and that comes with its own set of superpowers. It's important to recognise that your style of communication and interaction might be different, but it doesn't make you any less amazing or deserving of meaningful relationships. Embrace your quirks and let your true self shine in social settings!</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">When you embrace and accept your social differences, it becomes easier to extend that empathy to others. You know firsthand what it feels like to face challenges in social settings, and that understanding can deepen your connections with others who may also be navigating their unique social journeys. By cultivating empathy, you create a space where people feel seen, heard, and valued, fostering stronger and more meaningful relationships.</span></p></h4><h4 style="color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Cultivating Empathy and Understanding</span></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;"><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Understanding your social differences is like having a secret decoder for empathy. It's like having a unique perspective that allows you to see and feel things in a way that others might not. Your experiences navigating social situations have given you a special superpower: the ability to empathise deeply with others. You know what it feels like to face challenges and uncertainties in social settings, and that understanding gives you a unique advantage in building connections and fostering meaningful relationships. Embracing your journey means embracing the power of empathy, and creating a space where people feel seen, heard, and understood.</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">By embracing your social differences and being open about your experiences, you invite others to do the same. Your willingness to be authentic and vulnerable creates a ripple effect, encouraging others to embrace their unique journeys and fostering a culture of understanding and acceptance. As you navigate social interactions, remember that your superpower of empathy allows you to tune in to the feelings and experiences of those around you. Use this gift to connect with others on a deeper level, to show kindness and compassion, and to create a world where everyone's social differences are celebrated and embraced. Together, we can build a community that thrives on empathy and understanding, where genuine connections flourish and everyone feels valued for who they are.</span></p></h4><h4 style="color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Educating Others: Sharing Your Unique Perspective</span></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;"><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">You've got a wealth of knowledge and experiences that can educate and enlighten those around you. Your unique perspective as an autistic individual is a valuable asset in promoting understanding and acceptance. By sharing your insights and perspectives, you become an advocate for autism and neurodiversity, opening doors to new conversations and challenging misconceptions. Don't be shy! Embrace the opportunity to bust those misconceptions and show the world the beauty of neurodiversity. Each conversation and interaction is a chance to create a more inclusive and accepting society, one where diversity is celebrated and everyone feels valued.</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">So, let your voice be heard! Speak up, share your story, and contribute to the growing dialogue around autism and neurodiversity. Your experiences and unique insights have the power to change minds and shape perceptions. Educate others about the strengths and challenges of being autistic, help them understand the importance of embracing neurodiversity, and inspire them to challenge their preconceived notions. Remember, every conversation is an opportunity to create a ripple effect of understanding and acceptance. By using your voice and sharing your knowledge, you become a catalyst for change and a beacon of hope for a more inclusive and compassionate world.</span></p></h4><h4 style="color: #0e101a; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Creating Accepting Environments</span></h4><h4 style="text-align: center;"><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">As you embrace your social differences, you become a catalyst for change. Your authenticity and willingness to be open about your challenges and strengths inspire others to do the same. By sharing your experiences, you create a ripple effect of acceptance and understanding. Together, we can build a world where diversity is celebrated, and everyone feels welcome, valued, and respected.</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Imagine classrooms where students of all abilities learn side by side, workplaces that prioritise inclusion and provide accommodations and social gatherings where acceptance is the norm. By advocating for acceptance and celebrating diversity, we can create these environments. Let's challenge societal norms, educate others about neurodiversity, and champion the rights of every individual to be valued for who they are. Together, we can build a future where everyone feels embraced and empowered, regardless of their social differences.</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOTvj-mv983e5-GwSj9-2ea7JnLPY-7qrCMwd6Jbgk_gDGgPemktplB-eyY1Y4R50rXQ950TVB7py_QTiTEaffzSrS50cqJArJoUSqC7H5gb7MPc3Kk7UZhDoPcV1my1MViJsNqj9bjVfu1FZ-51g5nQmPoATRsCyS6TvjQD1xNLkBagQiKOKWuDiBkQ/s6000/pexels-fauxels-3184418.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4000" data-original-width="6000" height="253" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOTvj-mv983e5-GwSj9-2ea7JnLPY-7qrCMwd6Jbgk_gDGgPemktplB-eyY1Y4R50rXQ950TVB7py_QTiTEaffzSrS50cqJArJoUSqC7H5gb7MPc3Kk7UZhDoPcV1my1MViJsNqj9bjVfu1FZ-51g5nQmPoATRsCyS6TvjQD1xNLkBagQiKOKWuDiBkQ/w380-h253/pexels-fauxels-3184418.jpg" width="380" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><br /></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">You, my friend, are embarking on a unique social journey. It's a journey that celebrates your strengths, embraces your differences, and spreads love and acceptance. Remember to prioritise self-acceptance, nurture empathy, share your experiences to educate others, and create inclusive spaces. Your voice matters, and your presence has the power to make a positive impact on the world around you. So, let's embrace our social superpowers and navigate this beautiful, diverse tapestry of connections together. Keep being authentically you, and let your social journey unfold with confidence and joy!</span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: start;"><br /></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Thanks for reading, </span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;"><br /></span></p><p style="color: #0e101a; font-weight: 400; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span data-preserver-spaces="true" style="margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt;">Spec</span></p></h4>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-54389687612788702352023-05-15T12:00:00.001+01:002023-05-15T12:00:00.135+01:00University Life<p> University life can be a rollercoaster ride of emotions. The stress of assignments, navigating social circles, and being away from home can really weigh on your mental health. But fret not! We're here to lend a friendly hand and share some tips on how to take care of your mental well-being while studying at university. So, grab a cuppa and let's dive in!</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><br /></p><p>First and foremost, connect with others. University can feel like a lonely place if you don't make an effort to build a support network. Reach out to friends and family who you can lean on when you need a good chat or some sound advice. And hey, don't be shy about joining clubs or societies! They're the perfect way to meet like-minded people who share your interests. Remember, we're all in this together, and a little connection goes a long way.</p><p><br /></p><p>Next up, self-care is your secret weapon. Make time for activities that make you feel good and recharge your batteries. Whether it's going for a jog, curling up with a good book, or indulging in a relaxing bubble bath, do what makes you happy. And remember the basics: eat a healthy, balanced diet, get enough sleep, and avoid relying on drugs or alcohol to cope with stress. They may offer a temporary escape, but they can do more harm than good in the long run.</p><p><br /></p><p>Ah, the dreaded workload. University assignments and exams can pile up faster than a tower of textbooks. To keep the stress monster at bay, create a study schedule that allows you to balance your academic work with other activities. Procrastination might seem tempting, but trust me, it only adds to the anxiety. If you're feeling stuck on an assignment or struggling with a particular subject, don't hesitate to reach out to your tutor for guidance. They're there to help you succeed!</p><p><br /></p><p>Remember, seeking professional support is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you're having a tough time with your mental health, don't hesitate to seek help. Most universities offer counselling services specifically for students, providing a safe space to talk about your feelings and learn coping strategies. Your GP or a mental health professional outside of the university can also offer valuable guidance. You don't have to face it alone.</p><p><br /></p><p>Lastly, let's talk about mindfulness. Taking a moment to be present and focus on your thoughts and feelings can work wonders for your mental well-being. Whether you choose to meditate, go for a peaceful walk in nature, or simply take a few deep breaths when you're overwhelmed, practising mindfulness can help reduce stress and bring a sense of calm to your chaotic university life.</p><p><br /></p><p>So there you have it! Taking care of your mental health while at university is not only crucial for your overall well-being but also for making the most of your experience. Connect with others, practice self-care, manage your workload, seek support when needed, and practice mindfulness. Remember, it's okay to ask for help when you need it. Prioritizing your mental well-being is the key to success both at university and in life.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, and take care!</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p><p><br /></p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-53164068256138981202023-05-08T12:00:00.003+01:002023-05-08T12:00:00.132+01:00Intrusive thoughts, an overview<p> Have you ever experienced a disturbing thought that just wouldn't go away? Maybe it was a violent image or a taboo desire that seemed to come out of nowhere. If so, you're not alone. Millions of people experience intrusive thoughts, and they can be both unsettling and distressing. In this post, we'll explore what intrusive thoughts are, why they happen, and what you can do to manage them.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><br /></p><p>It was actually through a Youtube video that I first heard of intrusive thoughts. Still, I was scared to talk to a doctor about my thoughts for the longest of times as I thought I would be judged or locked up. Since then, I have spent quite some time researching intrusive thoughts, so let's talk about that. </p><p><br /></p><p>Intrusive thoughts are typically unwanted, distressing, and recurrent. They may involve themes related to violence, harm, or aggression, such as thoughts of harming oneself or others, or of being harmed by others. Other common themes include sexual imagery, blasphemy, or taboo thoughts related to cultural or religious beliefs.</p><p><br /></p><p>Intrusive thoughts can be triggered by various factors, such as stress, anxiety, trauma, or substance use. They may also arise spontaneously without any apparent trigger.</p><p><br /></p><p>Something to note is that having intrusive thoughts does not necessarily mean that a person wants to act on them or that they are a reflection of their true desires or values. Rather, intrusive thoughts are a common experience and can be seen as a product of the complex workings of the human mind.</p><p><br /></p><p>Having intrusive thoughts is quite common and normal. According to research, up to 94% of people experience unwanted, intrusive thoughts at some point in their lives. These thoughts can be triggered by stress, anxiety, depression, or other mental health conditions, and they are not a reflection of a person's character or values.</p><p><br /></p><p>However, for some individuals, intrusive thoughts can become overwhelming and interfere with their daily life. They may experience significant anxiety, shame, or guilt, and may try to suppress or avoid these thoughts. Unfortunately, trying to stop or avoid intrusive thoughts can actually make them worse and more persistent.</p><p><br /></p><p>So, what can you do if you're struggling with intrusive thoughts? Here are some strategies that may help:</p><p><br /></p><p>Recognize that these thoughts are not a reflection of who you are. Intrusive thoughts are not a sign of weakness or moral failure. They are a normal part of the human experience.</p><p><br /></p><p>Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings without getting caught up in them. When an intrusive thought arises, try to observe it without judgment, and then redirect your attention to the present moment.</p><p><br /></p><p>Challenge your thoughts. When an intrusive thought arises, ask yourself if it's true. Is there evidence to support it? Is it helpful or constructive? Often, we can get caught up in negative thinking patterns that are not based in reality.</p><p><br /></p><p>Talk to someone. If your intrusive thoughts are causing you significant distress, talking to a mental health professional can be helpful. They can provide you with support, guidance, and tools to manage your thoughts and feelings.</p><p><br /></p><p>Practice self-care. Taking care of your physical and emotional needs can help you feel more grounded and resilient in the face of intrusive thoughts. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.</p><p><br /></p><p>Intrusive thoughts are different for everyone, and the impact they have on someone can vary from mild inconvenience to world-ending feelings, and in extreme cases can even lead to suicidal thoughts or actions.</p><p><br /></p><p>I have struggled with intrusive thoughts for much of my life, they vary, some are highly inappropriate sexual thoughts. Such as thinking of family members or they can be thoughts of hurting others. When I was younger I acted on some of these thoughts, more specifically those that involved hurting others. </p><p><br /></p><p>Me and my younger brother fought physically many times during my childhood. I often got into shouting matches, I would hit my head against objects, and when I got older I started to harm myself with sharp objects, burning myself or even starving myself. I thought that I was some kind of monster. I knew that other people didn’t have thoughts as I did but I didn’t know why I had these thoughts or that they even had a name. </p><p><br /></p><p>Eventually, in 2019 I was admitted to a mental health unit here in the UK and I finally spoke about my thoughts and how they affect me. With the help of therapy, medication and, in all honesty, just the relief of knowing that what I was thinking and how those thoughts made me feel, were not only the result of my mental health. But also relatively normal for people like me. </p><p><br /></p><p>Intrusive thoughts can be a difficult and distressing experience, but with the right tools and support, you can learn to manage them effectively. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p><div><br /></div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-37532681674757314572023-04-03T12:00:00.006+01:002023-04-09T18:48:04.528+01:00The History of Autism: From Misunderstanding to Recognition<p>Autism is a complex neurological disorder that affects an individual's communication and social interaction skills. It is often characterized by repetitive behaviours and restricted interests. Autism has been studied extensively in recent years, but the understanding and recognition of the disorder have not always been as it is today. Let's take a look at the history of autism and how it has evolved.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><br /></p><h3 style="text-align: center;">The History</h3><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhI4JSRTSH9iNT69gFKk84kAUkRHCpNaUcvBAn-5hpxY89i5AHZi7s1nbYSdMOJhynaUdZc8_r4jnKS4OgGJ38hlph9Oerv_WUuq4KfzChL2Q1ktyo24oySc8UQynMCYJS6YRvlx7ntj6a7qOQLyf2QpW-9wLjXUCyF49jjG8IRKYgmtMRWZAlyVDcF/s476/Analisi%20Laica.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="476" data-original-width="472" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhI4JSRTSH9iNT69gFKk84kAUkRHCpNaUcvBAn-5hpxY89i5AHZi7s1nbYSdMOJhynaUdZc8_r4jnKS4OgGJ38hlph9Oerv_WUuq4KfzChL2Q1ktyo24oySc8UQynMCYJS6YRvlx7ntj6a7qOQLyf2QpW-9wLjXUCyF49jjG8IRKYgmtMRWZAlyVDcF/s320/Analisi%20Laica.jpg" width="317" /></a></div><br />The early history of autism dates back to the early 20th century when Swiss psychiatrist Eugen Bleuler used the term "autismus" to describe symptoms of schizophrenia that involved social withdrawal and self-absorption. However, it was not until the 1940s that the term "autism" was first used to describe a distinct disorder.<p></p><p><br /></p><p>Leo Kanner, an American psychiatrist, first used the term "autism" in 1943 to describe a group of children he observed who had difficulty with social interaction and communication and exhibited repetitive behaviours. Kanner's observations were the foundation for the initial understanding of autism and helped distinguish it from other developmental disorders.</p><p><br /></p><p>Over the years, the diagnostic criteria for autism have evolved. In 1980, autism was officially recognized as a distinct disorder by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III). The manual provided specific diagnostic criteria for autism, which included impairments in social interaction and communication, as well as restricted and repetitive behaviour patterns.</p><p><br /></p><p>The DSM-III criteria were updated in 1987 to include Asperger's syndrome, a milder form of autism characterized by difficulties with social interaction and communication, but without the same degree of language and cognitive delays seen in classical autism.</p><p><br /></p><p>In 1994, the DSM-IV was released and further refined the diagnostic criteria for autism. The DSM-IV included a broader definition of autism that encompassed a range of disorders known as Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), which includes autism, Asperger's syndrome, and Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS).</p><p><br /></p><h3 style="text-align: center;">Current understanding of autism</h3><p>Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a complex neurological condition that is characterized by persistent difficulties in social interaction, communication, and behaviour. The severity of symptoms can range from mild to severe and can affect people in a variety of ways. Some individuals with autism may have exceptional skills in certain areas, such as mathematics or music, while others may have significant challenges in day-to-day living.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5_JmZuaNqdW5MOz6ATUqUybQZDV_pOF70io702BlFhG60pPOS8VOAZY7DV7LrcA-52J977feOjwkVOf0clHkz46fgiaFzHf2vZX3Xy96-hzUInDQavv-CkLWXiQ45-7UOsa_Mk0A21GL8XG7zr10P2Y4EcdsTYJdpXZVSJFkUKOdg29R4NSehyIYF/s5356/pexels-mikhail-nilov-8653452.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="5356" data-original-width="5301" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5_JmZuaNqdW5MOz6ATUqUybQZDV_pOF70io702BlFhG60pPOS8VOAZY7DV7LrcA-52J977feOjwkVOf0clHkz46fgiaFzHf2vZX3Xy96-hzUInDQavv-CkLWXiQ45-7UOsa_Mk0A21GL8XG7zr10P2Y4EcdsTYJdpXZVSJFkUKOdg29R4NSehyIYF/s320/pexels-mikhail-nilov-8653452.jpg" width="317" /></a></div><p>The DSM-5, released in 2013, provides the current diagnostic criteria for ASD. One of the significant changes in the DSM-5 is the consolidation of several previously separate diagnoses, including autistic disorder, Asperger's disorder, and pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified, into one umbrella diagnosis of ASD. This change was made to better reflect the clinical reality that autism is a spectrum disorder, and individuals can have varying levels of impairment across different areas of functioning.</p><p><br /></p><p>The DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for ASD include persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts, as well as restricted, repetitive patterns of behaviour, interests, or activities. These symptoms must be present from early childhood, but they may not become fully evident until social demands exceed the limited capacities of the individual.</p><p><br /></p><p>In addition to the core symptoms, the DSM-5 recognizes that many individuals with ASD may have other associated features, such as sensory sensitivities, motor difficulties, and gastrointestinal problems. These associated features can have a significant impact on an individual's daily life and should be taken into account when considering a diagnosis of ASD.</p><p><br /></p><p>The recognition of ASD as a spectrum disorder has led to a greater understanding of the wide range of symptoms and severity that individuals with autism can experience. The DSM-5 criteria also highlight the importance of assessing an individual's functioning across multiple areas of life, including social, academic, and occupational domains, to provide a comprehensive picture of their strengths and challenges.</p><p><br /></p><h3 style="text-align: center;">Research</h3><p>Autism research has also expanded in recent years, leading to a better understanding of the underlying genetic and neurological factors that contribute to the disorder. It is a rapidly evolving field, and scientists are constantly making discoveries about the causes, symptoms, and treatments of autism.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHbtYA6YP08CZgw_kuadlEOSUWC3BUIPpWcdIJP0OKWOI-N5x9x_94lOCwE91Q2ldMgCu0mLUFcd0Qlz3HFMw_Nyznu8qdqK8KInRTXd15R1Y2Td-hUm5CPSJ6YfWmh94as4NKZHRapxcqWGjYIENLMfiJY_KR9NF2GEAPWwiG_7HamkXxqlAh7nwz/s6016/pexels-chokniti-khongchum-3082451.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4016" data-original-width="6016" height="214" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHbtYA6YP08CZgw_kuadlEOSUWC3BUIPpWcdIJP0OKWOI-N5x9x_94lOCwE91Q2ldMgCu0mLUFcd0Qlz3HFMw_Nyznu8qdqK8KInRTXd15R1Y2Td-hUm5CPSJ6YfWmh94as4NKZHRapxcqWGjYIENLMfiJY_KR9NF2GEAPWwiG_7HamkXxqlAh7nwz/s320/pexels-chokniti-khongchum-3082451.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p>One area of research that has received a lot of attention in recent years is the genetics of autism. Researchers have identified several genes that may be associated with an increased risk of autism, and they are working to better understand how these genes contribute to the development of the disorder. Studies have also looked at epigenetic factors, such as changes in gene expression that occur without changes to the underlying DNA sequence, and how they may be involved in the development of autism.</p><p><br /></p><p>Another area of research has focused on the brain and how it functions in individuals with autism. Using neuroimaging techniques such as magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), researchers have identified differences in the structure and function of the brains of people with autism compared to those without the disorder. For example, studies have shown that individuals with autism tend to have larger brains, especially in the regions that are involved in processing sensory information. Researchers are also investigating the role of specific brain regions and neural circuits in the development of autism, which may help to inform new treatment approaches.</p><p><br /></p><p>In addition to genetic and brain-based research, studies have also explored the role of environmental factors in the development of autism. For example, researchers have looked at the potential link between Another important area of research in autism is in the field of social communication and interaction. Many individuals with autism struggle with social interactions, including understanding nonverbal cues and developing appropriate relationships with others. Researchers are working on developing interventions and therapies that can improve social communication and interaction skills in individuals with autism. These may include social skills training programs, as well as assistive technology such as virtual reality simulations.</p><p><br /></p><p>Despite the progress that has been made in understanding and treating autism, there is still a great deal that is not known about the disorder. For example, researchers are still investigating why autism occurs in some individuals but not others, and what factors may contribute to the severity of symptoms. They are also exploring new treatments and therapies, such as the use of cannabinoids, which have shown promise in some studies.</p><p><br /></p><p>One of the biggest challenges facing individuals with autism is accessing the resources and support that they need. While there are many therapies and interventions available for autism, they can be expensive and difficult to access, especially for families with limited financial resources. There is a need for increased funding for research and treatment, as well as greater public awareness and understanding of autism.</p><p><br /></p><p>Despite these challenges, there is a reason for optimism in the field of autism research. Advances in genetics, neuroimaging, and behavioural interventions have led to a better understanding of the disorder and improved treatments for individuals with autism. With continued research and advocacy, we can work towards a better future for individuals with autism and their families.</p><p><br /></p><h3 style="text-align: center;">Conclusion</h3><p>Autism is a complex neurological disorder that affects social communication and interaction, as well as behaviour. The history of autism has evolved over the years, from the initial description as a symptom of schizophrenia to the recognition of a distinct disorder with specific diagnostic criteria. Today, autism research is a rapidly evolving field, with ongoing investigations into the genetics, brain function, and environmental factors that may contribute to the disorder. While there is still much to be learned about autism, there is a reason for hope, with advances in treatments and interventions that can help individuals with autism live fulfilling lives.</p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">If you enjoyed this post you may also enjoy <a href="https://blog.anautisticauthor.co.uk/2023/03/busting-autism-myths.html">this post talking about autism myths</a>.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-57149061715474499602023-04-03T12:00:00.004+01:002023-04-03T12:00:00.214+01:00Mental Health and Misinformation <p> So this isn't the post that was meant to be here. I was planning to write a post about how I've been using ChatGPT to write content for my<a href="https://www.bloggpt.co.uk/"> AI-powered blog</a>. But instead, I've spent the entirety of today (Tuesday 28th) stuck, crippled with depression. Most of the time I'm doing pretty well these days, but every now and then I just get floored with this deep feeling of loss and darkness.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p><br /></p><p>It's really strange for me when I'm like this because, for the most part, I'm doing rather well these days with my mental health. I'm actively working on things, getting a lot of things done, and streaming every day. I'm being pretty productive and it's been great. But then there are days, that come unexpectedly and untriggered where I just feel the darkness creeping back into my soul. On top of this, I for the first time in my life I am genuinely content and most of the time I’m pretty happy.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifd3bmJ6EKCeVQeDQiPWMjzZ7_uwYwJB5OccaynDm2N1Lekzg46-_SUcLdEYpAf9H6hiE4gJKw5MOKzKC8eU_YCBSlqNFHZCs87Q_i2mt_l0ridU0_MbjiUQ7lAA4yjI8Ezwh_kshEIChUqmSsYfmmknZo-E5NZyYa6FjaJ8uijYnMpa5NHt5HeH8f/s1920/mental-health-2019924_1920.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="814" data-original-width="1920" height="211" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifd3bmJ6EKCeVQeDQiPWMjzZ7_uwYwJB5OccaynDm2N1Lekzg46-_SUcLdEYpAf9H6hiE4gJKw5MOKzKC8eU_YCBSlqNFHZCs87Q_i2mt_l0ridU0_MbjiUQ7lAA4yjI8Ezwh_kshEIChUqmSsYfmmknZo-E5NZyYa6FjaJ8uijYnMpa5NHt5HeH8f/w496-h211/mental-health-2019924_1920.jpg" width="496" /></a></div><p>I knew that starting out from scratch on YouTube would be slow, but sometimes it is a little deflating. Putting in so much work into a script, and then into recording voiceovers, and then into editing. Finding just the right video, and music that gives my video just the right feel and impact. I think one of the things that have bothered me the most is how little support I have gotten from my friends and family. Like I'm not expecting to be a big content creator, but I at least want some people to see the product of what is a great amount of work. A great about of emotions, mental effort, and anxiety. </p><p><br /></p><p>Oh, did I talk about the anxiety? I don't think most people who create videos and put themselves out there on the internet really talk about the fact that there is a massive amount of stress, anxiety and worry that comes with it. Don't get me wrong, I love the process, I love the work involved. I massively enjoy what I choose to spend my time on. But that doesn't change the anxiety and worry. What if I say something wrong, or upset someone, what if I become just another person on the internet who spreads misinformation? It's massively important for me, and it should be for all of you, that the information we spread on the internet is true and constructive. </p><p><br /></p><p>We live in the age of information, the average person in the developed world has access to more information than even the most learned person a century ago. But, not all of that information is correct, and sometimes we inadvertently share this incorrect information. But, that leads to the question of where does this misinformation come from? Well, in my opinion, it comes from two main places. The first place is a light-hearted one, someone making jokes, and having a bit of a laugh. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhe0E9w0BnMKe-vgbf_vhyk_t1NrgcLo_fEIkAhqgZFHK9IH1HaUAG0EDhb4ZiK_FeaMwbCOIQbR-PqaDoe5ARIXzhLjLRsWnbe1EkHMIZW-kUARqtX6YLSGT-jkFJixDAvl7FQilQ_hfegz-OZSjBMETGgR8ysOhIB3enBNWfnUVgBOJU6tGDoXmBN/s1920/fake-news-4881486_1920.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="903" data-original-width="1920" height="214" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhe0E9w0BnMKe-vgbf_vhyk_t1NrgcLo_fEIkAhqgZFHK9IH1HaUAG0EDhb4ZiK_FeaMwbCOIQbR-PqaDoe5ARIXzhLjLRsWnbe1EkHMIZW-kUARqtX6YLSGT-jkFJixDAvl7FQilQ_hfegz-OZSjBMETGgR8ysOhIB3enBNWfnUVgBOJU6tGDoXmBN/w453-h214/fake-news-4881486_1920.jpg" width="453" /></a></div><p>The second one is more malicious when a government, business or organisation choose to make a concerted effort to influence a narrative. I'm not going to go into the specifics of who, when and where. We have all seen in the news and media over the recent years the number of times various countries have been suspected of manipulating information spread across the internet. Be that, trying to influence the outcome of an election or public opinion of a specific organisation or nation. There are a massive number of reasons why they, being a country or organisation, would want to influence the narrative. From war propaganda to trying to manipulate public opinion of science, social concepts, classes of people or any other number of things. </p><p><br /></p><p>The point that I’m trying to make is, there is so much worry and anxiety that can come from these types of things. Talking about your own opinions is easy. I put myself out there and proclaim to the world, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE. I’m not trying to prove the validity of the information's accuracy. Because it’s an opinion. It is talking about how I feel about something. People may choose to disagree with the opinion but they often can’t objectively tell me that I am wrong. </p><p><br /></p><p>Information is absolute, it is scientifically quantifiable. There are methods used to ensure that information is accurate, up to date and has consensus. So the problem is, what if I, Spec, go forth and spread not information, but misinformation? What if I, inadvertently become just another cog in some countries or organisations' machines built to discredit that which has reached consensus? Well, the hope is I won’t, but if I do, I would like to think someone will let me know. Then I hope that I have the humility to accept that, put my hands up and admit it to the world. </p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">If you enjoyed this look into my mental process why not check out <a href="https://www.thescottishscott.co.uk/2023/01/mental-health-and-need-for-escapism.html">this post from Scott</a>, </p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec. </p><div><br /></div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-88754863808057048842023-03-27T12:00:00.002+01:002023-03-27T12:00:00.209+01:00Busting Autism Myths<p style="text-align: center;"> Autism is a complex neurological condition that affects an estimated 1 in 54 children in the United States. Despite increased awareness and understanding of autism in recent years, there are still many misconceptions and myths surrounding the condition. In this post, we will explore some of the most common myths about autism and provide the facts to help increase understanding and awareness of this important condition.</p><span><a name='more'></a></span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhja1E866aUO3pa4bU-oD5mIDx6PwXzc2MSBJ1gJdWUBP-b5T41WDIWPe51LLaasuzVRaB0ajmSK-ZlT5RGs3PqI9bcLo16wEwR664bJNXFsS1zF0kpfWE8joEDxFeYrrm_8CCzyA1PYIRUGGdAkT2PbhVKy_YbwBYSQ0VJQnHFK4wCYSaJWn9TEVoZ/s1920/little-girl-1304950_1920.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1280" data-original-width="1920" height="248" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhja1E866aUO3pa4bU-oD5mIDx6PwXzc2MSBJ1gJdWUBP-b5T41WDIWPe51LLaasuzVRaB0ajmSK-ZlT5RGs3PqI9bcLo16wEwR664bJNXFsS1zF0kpfWE8joEDxFeYrrm_8CCzyA1PYIRUGGdAkT2PbhVKy_YbwBYSQ0VJQnHFK4wCYSaJWn9TEVoZ/w372-h248/little-girl-1304950_1920.jpg" width="372" /></a></div><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autism is caused by bad parenting or environmental factors.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: There is no evidence to support the idea that autism is caused by bad parenting or environmental factors. Autism is a complex condition that is thought to be caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Research has shown that there are genetic differences in the brains of individuals with autism and that these differences can affect how they perceive and process information.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: All autistic individuals are the same.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: Autism is a spectrum disorder, which means that it affects individuals in different ways and to varying degrees. While some autistic individuals may have difficulty with social interaction and communication, others may excel in these areas. It is important to understand that every individual with autism is unique and should be treated as such.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autistic individuals lack empathy.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: While some autistic individuals may have difficulty expressing empathy in a way that is recognizable to non-autistic individuals, this does not mean that they lack empathy altogether. Many autistic individuals are capable of feeling empathy, and some may even feel empathy more intensely than non-autistic individuals.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autistic individuals are not capable of forming meaningful relationships.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: Autistic individuals are capable of forming meaningful relationships, but they may approach relationships in a different way than non-autistic individuals. They may have difficulty with social cues and nonverbal communication, but this does not mean that they are incapable of forming close bonds with others.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autism can be cured.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: There is currently no cure for autism. While there are therapies and interventions that can help individuals with autism to develop social and communication skills, there is no known cure for the condition. However, with the right support and interventions, many individuals with autism can lead fulfilling and productive lives.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autistic individuals are not capable of independent living or employment.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: Many autistic individuals are capable of living independently and holding down jobs. While some may require more support and accommodations than others, with the right support and training, autistic individuals can thrive in a variety of settings.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Myth: Autistic individuals are not capable of learning.</p><p style="text-align: center;">Fact: Autistic individuals are capable of learning, but they may learn in different ways than non-autistic individuals. Many autistic individuals have exceptional memory and attention to detail, which can be valuable assets in certain fields.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Understanding autism requires separating fact from fiction. By recognizing and challenging common myths about autism, we can increase understanding and acceptance of this important condition. Autistic individuals are unique individuals who possess many strengths and talents that can be valuable to society as a whole. By providing the right support and accommodations, we can help individuals with autism to reach their full potential and live fulfilling and productive lives.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading, if you enjoyed this content maybe you will like <a href="https://www.adhdattention.co.uk/2022/11/another-example-of-overthinking.html">this post</a>,</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec</p><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-43646143946428549552023-03-15T19:04:00.005+00:002023-03-15T19:04:31.395+00:00Temple Grandin<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"> Temple Grandin is a name that has become synonymous with animal rights and neurodiversity. She is a renowned animal behaviorist, autism advocate, and author who has dedicated her life to improving the treatment of animals and promoting acceptance of those with neurological differences.</span></p><span><span style="font-family: courier;"><a name='more'></a></span></span><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">As someone on the autism spectrum herself, Grandin has been a trailblazer in the neurodiversity movement. She has used her platform to raise awareness about autism and to advocate for acceptance and understanding of those with neurological differences. Her work has helped to reduce the stigma surrounding autism and has encouraged a more compassionate and inclusive society.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">However, Grandin is perhaps best known for her work in animal behaviour and welfare. As a designer of livestock handling facilities, she has revolutionized the way animals are treated in the meat industry. She has worked tirelessly to improve the conditions of animals in factory farms and slaughterhouses, promoting more humane and ethical treatment of animals.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">One of Grandin's most notable contributions to animal welfare is the "squeeze machine," which is a device that provides deep pressure to calm and soothe animals. This machine has been widely used in the meat industry and has helped to reduce the stress and anxiety that animals experience during handling and transportation.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Grandin's work has not only had a significant impact on animal welfare but has also influenced the meat industry as a whole. Her innovative designs and ideas have led to a more ethical and sustainable approach to meat production, which benefits both animals and consumers.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Overall, Temple Grandin is an inspirational figure who has dedicated her life to promoting animal rights and neurodiversity. Her work has helped to create a more compassionate and inclusive society, and her contributions to animal welfare have led to significant improvements in the meat industry. Grandin's legacy serves as a reminder of the power of compassion, innovation, and dedication to create positive change in the world.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Thanks for reading,</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Spec</span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-63336424854586057342023-01-23T12:00:00.001+00:002023-01-23T12:00:00.209+00:00Why You Shouldn't Lock Your (Autisitic) Child In Their Room<p style="text-align: center;"> Although this blog is often aimed at autism, this is something that I feel strongly about, it relates not only to autistic children but also those that are neurotypical. As you may know already from the title we will be talking about locking your child's bedroom door and the impact this has on the child. </p><span><a name='more'></a></span><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">It can certainly be tempting, once a child gets to the toddler stage and transitions to a bed rather than a cot to lock the door. It's common for all children to do some wondering, but it seems far more common for autistic children to roam further afield. In some cases even leaving the house itself and wondering outside during the night. </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">This can be a terrifying ordeal for the parent and child alike. Often police are involved and in extreme cases, the local social services may be involved which in itself leads to large amounts of stress for families. </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">All this leads to many parents considering adding locks to their children's doors, but I'm here to say, it is not okay to lock the door! There is a whole range of reasons for this. But the main ones are, in the event of a fire or other emergency the child could end up stuck, the impact it has on the child mentally can be harmful and finally, it just isn't necessary when there is a well-thought-out behavioural plan in place.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Locking the child's door may be a violation of fire or building safety codes where you live depending on the exact rules, which could land you in hot water if you were to go this route. Not only this but in the event of a disaster such as a fire, earthquake, flooding or home invasion you could lose vital seconds unlocking the door to rescue the child.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Have you ever found yourself to be in a place where you feel as if you are a prisoner? Maybe you were arrested or in a choking relationship. Regardless of the exact situation that you were in at the time, think back to how you felt at that time. The loss of freedom, the anxiety, fear. These are all feelings that trapped children feel. Just because they are children doesn't mean they don't understand that they are trapped and unable to escape. This can lead to the children being more anxious in their everyday lives. Anxiety is one of the big causes of misbehaving in people of all ages but especially young children.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">So the question has to be asked, what alternatives are there? Well, the first one is a pretty simple one, a toddler gate. These handy little devices have been a thing for a long time and have generally proven to be highly effective for younger toddlers. If you somehow don't know what a toddler gate is, it is typically metal gate that is installed In front of the door. Most modern ones simply wedge into place and require no screws, nails or other damage to doorframes or walls. </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">If you are looking for something more stylish then why don't you consider a Dutch door? Also called a stable door or split door, these are doors that are split down the middle so you can close the bottom half while leaving the top half open. This means the child can look out over the door but is secure overnight.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">You can use these options either on their own or in conjunction with some form of a motion detector. There are a plethora of devices on the market, from baby monitors that alert you to movement, all the way to security devices that are designed to secure your house but can be reused for protecting your little ones. There are many kinds, some are as simple as handing a device on the door handle or can be as complicated as needing to be wired in. Just make sure that whatever device you choose is reliable. The left thing you need is to be taken frequently from a motion sensor that alerts you without any cause.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">In the end, there is only one permanent solution, which just happens to be the best one too. That is, finding a good sleep ritual that works for you and your family. It's not unreasonable for the ritual to start a few hours before bedtime. Dimming lighting, having a bath and getting into pyjamas can go a long way to subconsciously signal to the child that bedtime is nearing. </p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">At the end of the day, no matter our age, getting into a good sleep cycle can massively improve our quality of life. We can be happier, with more energy and motivation, we can learn faster and even have better overall health simply from maintaining a good sleep schedule. At the end of the day, the sooner your child is sleeping soundly, the sooner you will be too!</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Thanks for reading,</p><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">Spec.</p><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-90736853255317076822022-12-02T12:00:00.007+00:002022-12-02T12:00:00.236+00:00My Journey With Anxiety<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"> <span style="font-size: 11pt; text-align: center; white-space: pre-wrap;">This is the second post in this series where I talk about my various mental health struggles and symptoms and how they have evolved over the years. Today, as you will know from the title we are talking about my journey with anxiety!</span></span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-09dabcb7-7fff-b8ba-8c79-cb97393ecb67"><div style="text-align: center;"><span><a name='more'></a></span><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">In the first post, we talked about my depression, how it started, the way it affected me over the years and where we stand today. You can find that post <a href="https://blog.anautisticauthor.co.uk/2022/10/my-journey-with-depression.html">here</a>.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I have spent my whole life battling anxiety, it has been an ever-present feeling in my life, when I was a child I would often talk about how my stomach hurt. I talked about feeling sick frequently. Looking back on those memories now, I think it is safe to say that I was feeling anxious. That lump in your throat, the deep sickness you feel in your stomach, even going as far as vomiting and having the runs. These are all symptoms of anxiety that could easily have been mistaken for sickness by my younger self. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">This is why it is important to teach children, especially young children, about feelings. It is important to teach children that it is okay to talk about how they feel, no matter what they feel. It is important to ensure that children in your care, no matter if you are a parent, teacher, nursery childminder or anything else for that matter, feel that you are a safe person for them to share. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Not only does this help children to better understand what they are feeling, but it can help them to build skills to process and deal with their emotions in healthy ways. Also in the event that something untoward were to happen, the child would be much more likely to feel comfortable enough to confide in you. This could save a child's innocence or even their life.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">This was the way it was for the majority of my childhood and early teens, I didn’t really understand what I was feeling. I’m not sure if it was my age, the fact I’m autistic or maybe a lack of education on feelings when I was young. No matter the reason, the outcome was the same, I was finding myself struggling most days with something that I just didn’t understand. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">It was only around the age of 14 I would say that I started to understand exactly what it was that I was battling for so long. Through talking to a counsellor at school, he was the first person to really point out to me that it was probably anxiety. Me, being the kind of person I am spent a significant amount of time researching on the internet.</span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">This was enlightening, for the first time, in many years it was light a lightbulb shone the light on my soul, my very being and my entire life experience. It was a beautifully sad moment in my life. In many ways, I felt as if I had discovered myself, but then, I was filled with anger. Why was it only now that I was discovering what this was? Why was it only now that I could begin to fight back, to start my journey of self-discovery, to start learning to cope with how I was feeling? </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Unfortunately, as it turned out, it wasn’t just that simple. There was no real easy fix to the situation. It was not simply something that I could turn off. I tried a number of things over the years. It started with my counsellor, he tried to teach me ways to calm down. Breathing exercises, counting to ten, all the usual basic things. None of these really worked for me. I ended up having one coping strategy, and that was to run away from the situation. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Throughout school life, I ended up simply walking out of classes, time after time I just got up and left as I just couldn’t deal with how I was feeling. I never really got much support from teachers in my younger years, they simply left me to my own devices. How I ever learned anything in primary school I shall never know. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">This “solution” to my anxiety continued for much of my life. Throughout high school, college and even university to some degree. We are now in my 20s and I’m struggling my way through university. By this point, the adult mental health team are on the case and I’m finally getting some medication. The medication is mildly effective for depression. It doesn’t really make a huge difference really but it probably saved my life at the time. But the anxiety is still pretty unkempt. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">It would be some time, in fact, it would be another half decade before I finally get my anxiety in check, I tried a number of things throughout these years. Person-centred counselling, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and other forms of social, talking and occupational therapy. All were given to me by the mental health team but none of them really helped in the long term. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">In the end for me, it took me getting to a point where I wanted to take my own life in order to finally get the help that I need. Even after this happened I spent 5 weeks in the hospital and that didn’t help me. But what did help me was the access that this gave me. I finally got to see the correct people. I was diagnosed with periods of psychosis and intrusive thoughts. This as it turned out was the source of my anxiety, and it was treating this that would come my salvation. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">In my case, the salvation that I needed was one simple medication, an antipsychotic. It took three tries to find the one for me that would work. I did try different dosages, times of day, and delivery methods. But in the end, I settled on a liquid antipsychotic. Chlorpromazine, for me it has been a godsend. There was no other way I would be able to be as settled as I have been over the last couple of months. There was no way that I would be here now, creating content in the way I do. I was consumed by my anxiety. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">There are still some days when I struggle, and there are still some situations where I am anxious, but that is natural, hell it's even normal for most people. At the end of the day, anxiety is just another emotion and is in itself not a mental health problem. It is when anxiety starts to interfere with your everyday life that it becomes a diagnosable problem. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">That is where I spent much of my life, struggling, not really understanding why I was struggling, but struggling nonetheless. I’m happy that we finally found something for me that works, I’m happy that I finally found a doctor that listened and tried to understand what I was saying even when I didn’t understand it myself. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So, how are you all feeling, I know this was a somewhat heavy topic and I happily invite you to share your thoughts and feelings in the comment below. </span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Thanks for reading,</span></span></p><span style="font-family: courier;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Spec. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><br /></span></div></span>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-84978914871573141232022-11-25T12:00:00.000+00:002022-11-25T12:00:00.210+00:00The Medicated Curse <p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So, I know that this blog is mostly aimed at autism, I mean it's right in the name. But it is important to know that many of us with autism end up in similar situations to me. Where we need many types of medication to deal with our mental health. </span></p><span><span style="font-family: courier;"><a name='more'></a></span></span><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">It is not uncommon for people on the autistic spectrum to end up struggling with their mental health. It is important to note at this point that although I may be talking in general terms, not all autistic people are the same. Much like any other group of people, we are all individuals with different likes, dislikes, feelings and opinions. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So as I'm sure you can tell, autistic people vary, some of us have needs so high that we require 24-hour care. While others are simply just in need of a little extra understanding and support. There is even variety in the way in which we like to identify ourselves. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Over the years the terminology has changed, and the biggest reason for this is the fact that the community is becoming more autistic-led rather than doctor-led. Today, many autistic people such as myself like to use what is called identity-first language, which is calling ourselves 'autistic' rather than 'having autism'. with that said it is important for you to use whatever language you feel is the right fit for you. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I'm not here trying to say that every single autistic person is struggling with their mental health. But, the autism research charity, <a href="https://www.autistica.org.uk/our-research/research-projects/anxiety-treatment-autistic-adults" target="_blank">Autistica</a>, claims that almost 8 in 10 autistic adults struggle with their mental health. And over half of those have more than one mental health diagnosis. This is significantly higher than the average for the general population. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So, we have a group of people who are disproportionately affected when it comes to mental health. One would think that there has been significant research into this, both into why autistic people seem to have such prevalent mental health struggles, how this group of people are affected by this and the best ways to treat autistic people. But the truth is, if it wasn't for charities like Autistica we wouldn't even have any solid data on this. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">The most common way of dealing with mental health in much of the world is through the use of medication. There are a massive number of medications used for mental health issues, from anxiety to depression, psychosis to intrusive thoughts. Generally speaking, no matter the mental health struggle there is a medication to help treat that. For the most part, medication is effective and safe. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Generally, many of these medications were invented for other things. The early mental health meds were discovered by accident and as a side effect of what the medication was originally created for. The more modern mental health meds that were created from the ground up to treat certain aspects of people's mental health can be more effective for some people and for others they are less effective. That is why we need to have both these older medications and the newer ones available for use. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">With this said, most of these medications have side effects. The truth is there are very few if any medications in the world that have been created without any side effects. In an ideal world, the doctor or prescriber would talk to the patient about these side effects and they would come to a decision as a team on how to move forward. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">But this is not the experience of myself or many of the people that I know. For many of us, it feels as if the doctors simply throw meds at us and then move on. In many situations, there are no follow-ups, no check-ins or aftercare. Simply a case of 'here, take this medication, good luck'. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So, what is the medicated curse as I call it that spawned this entire post? Side effects, we all know that medications have side effects and these can range from tiny barely noticeable things, all the way to life-threatening complications. I have to this point managed to avoid most of the more bothersome and dangerous side effects despite the fact that I'm on a high number of medications. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Out of all the side effects that I have had throughout my long life of taking medications is the one that I'm currently struggling with. That is the fact that I have uncontrollable weight gain. I'm not the kind of person to overeat, but as my physical condition has worsened since having covid I'm mostly unable to be active anymore. I have gained around 40% of my body weight in the last few months that I have been on antipsychotics. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I know that in reality, this isn't the worse side effect that I have had, there have been some that were much more medically significant. Such as meds that affected my heart rate or medication that made my liver struggle. But for me, this is a massive issue, as if I can't lose the weight through exercise, and I can lose the weight through dieting. Then what is left? </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I guess I'm trying to decide if this weight gain is worth the massive improvement in my quality of life. I mean, in many ways these meds have changed my life. I can sleep, eat, and shower without feeling on edge. I can talk on the phone, use a bus, and stream without worry. I have never felt like this before. But, I know how hard the weight will be to lose and I need to decide if my weight is something that is important enough to me to stop taking the antipsychotics. </span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Thanks for reading,</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Spec.</span></p>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-5083904894865219442022-11-24T12:00:00.005+00:002022-11-24T12:00:00.170+00:00Self-improvement and fighting against the victim mentality.<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Having autism can be extremely
challenging. Holding down a job, forming meaningful relationships,
achieving independence, dealing with finances, and coping with
anxiety, can all take a toll on our mental health. Autistic people
are statistically much more likely to suffer from co-existing mental
health conditions.</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span><p></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">It is hard to categorise autism because it exists on such a wide spectrum. Some are capable of working and some are not. Some can drive and achieve independence, and some can not. As a community, we should never judge each other. We should support and enable each other to do the best that we can. Whatever your personal best is. This is a personal matter.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Sadly many autistic people become
victims of bullying, harassment, prejudice, and ableism.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">They are frequently patronized and misunderstood.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">It’s easy to fall into the victim
mentality when it can be logically concluded that you are a victim.</span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I do believe, however, that developing a
victim mentality can be very toxic and counterproductive.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Working towards personal goals,
striving to better yourself, and developing good habits is imperative
to growing as a person. Also, the ability to take constructive
criticism is crucial to improve yourself.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Achieving self-discipline is not easy,
bu</span><span style="font-family: courier;">t there are steps you can do to improve yourself.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Some things about yourself, you can not change, but some things you can.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I always try to do some form of
exercise every day, and I try to read and learn something new every day. Every
evening, I catch up with any work commitments or emails I may have
received. I try to stick to a regular bedtime and wake time (Although at weekends this tends to go out the window). </span><span style="font-family: courier;">I try to
cook my own meals from scratch most days of the week. If someone upsets me, I try to learn from the
experience and I try not to take it personally (This is harder said
than done, I over-analyze everything). </span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I practice the piano every
evening, and I try to sight-read a new piece of music every day and
play through any repertoire pieces that I am working on. I try to
visit family and friends on the holidays to help them out, and I
unwind by playing video games, listening to music, or reading.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Sometimes I have a chaotic week where
all these habits fall apart. I don’t despair. I simply try again. I
have also signed up for the online website Udemy. There are many
courses on there for a decent price, enabling you to learn new
skills.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Thank you for reading.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">If you can't be the best. Be the best you can be.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Thank you for reading.</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Trance.</span></p>The Autistic Adventurer.http://www.blogger.com/profile/03918593136440077185noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-469751911741367502022-11-18T12:00:00.010+00:002022-11-18T12:00:00.204+00:00Six months Streaming<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"> <span style="font-size: 11pt; text-align: center; white-space: pre-wrap;">So on Wednesday, we celebrated a milestone in my streaming career, for the first time since I started streaming almost five years ago I have streamed every day for six whole months. It is a milestone that I never even dreamed of reaching, but yet here we are. So, let's talk about what has happened over the last six months. </span></span></p><span id="docs-internal-guid-f623fb82-7fff-4aed-80f5-173f1b9bebc6"><div style="text-align: center;"><span><a name='more'></a></span><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">In the beginning, I didn’t really think about it as a goal, to hit a certain number of days. In all honesty, at the time I was struggling with getting my life in order. I had no routine, no structure, I simply existed. Six months ago I was a different person in many ways. My mental health was questionable at best, and I attributed this to my lack of structure in my life. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">So I decided to implement structure, to do what I need to do to make myself feel calmer and safer. But no matter what you try to do, to build a routine, you need an anchor. You need to find something that you build a routine around. For many people, this is work or education. I, unfortunately, don’t have that option. So I needed to be a little creative. I had been streaming for 4 years by this point, but much of the time it was streaming without a schedule. Simply streaming when I felt like I could/should. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">My schedule isn’t as fixed as I would like, over the months my streaming has varied in starting time. Depending on exactly what is going on each day, I usually start streaming between 13:00 and 15:00 each day. On Mondays, I go live late in the evenings as I spend the day with my brother, his wife and my young nieces. But no matter what is happening during the day, I find the time to go live. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Over the last six months, I have seen a massive improvement in my mental health. It can be said that much of this improvement comes from changes that I have made over time. Starting with building a schedule. But it is not only that, I have also stopped drinking, given up nicotine, and started to dedicate myself to new things such as blogging. I'm looking forward to creating much more content over the coming months and years. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Most recently my mum had a stroke, or so we thought. It turns out that she has a rare neurological condition called functional neurological disorder. Over the years my mum has had many struggles with her health. But this was the scariest situation I have been in. It was truly the first time I really felt like I could have lost my mum. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">There was also the time I was scammed by a viewer who turned out to be a career scammer. I don’t really want to go into too much detail here as I wrote a whole post dedicated to that, but TLDR is someone who was in my chat for some time and posed to be working on an app for mental health. They then asked me to test and they used that to hack me. Fun times, if you want to read the full post you can do so <a href="http://blog.anautisticauthor.co.uk/2022/09/i-was-scammed.html">here</a>. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Shortly after I started this long campaign of streaming I decided it was time to quit nicotine. It went pretty well overall, I struggled in the beginning but I generally am not bothered by the lack of nic in my life. It came to light shortly after this that my liver was having a few problems due to my meds, so I decided to quit drinking exactly one month after I quit nicotine. I found this harder in some ways as drinking alcohol is so ingrained in our society. But in the end, I managed to keep off the booze and on Sunday I will be celebrating being 6 months nicotine free and 5 months alcohol-free. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">As a whole streaming has been going amazing, going from below 10 viewers a stream to seeing anywhere from 15-25 peaks and averaging high teens. Overall it could be said that we have been steadily growing, but over the last little while, we have hit a plateau. I don’t mind tbh as I’m still trying to get used to having this many viewers in the first place! I’m really happy to see how the streams have been progressing and I can’t way to see how we are doing when we hit 9 or even 12 months. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">One other issue that I have been facing over the last six months is the weight gain I have been seeing, much of this is down to the fact that I have started two new medications that make me gain weight via making me feeling hungry. It is something that I am looking to work on in the new year. So expect there to be some weight loss content at some point. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">If you would like to catch me live you can do so <a href="https://twitch.tv/gamingonthespectrum">here</a>, or you can watch the stream recordings on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CdkiRPX3DTQ&list=UULF9yf3PaF3W0CpGY22-_xLMA">YouTube</a>. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">But that's all for now folks, thanks for reading,</span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><p dir="ltr" style="line-height: 1.38; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Spec. </span></span></p><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div></span>Spechttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18122757587903204921noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7801773863695138860.post-19020921209160030782022-11-17T12:00:00.001+00:002022-11-17T12:00:00.189+00:00Is there really an autism epidemic?<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">In recent years,
there has been much debate on whether there is an autism epidemic. It seems that
nowadays children are receiving a diagnosis of autism at an alarming
rate. If you do an honest
study, you will discover that there are many contrasting opinions on
what is causing these staggering statistics.</span></p><span><span style="font-family: courier;"><a name='more'></a></span></span><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Some people believe
that environmental toxins, from either internal or external sources, are causing the increase in prevalence. Others believe it is simply
being diagnosed better. Who is correct?</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Whatever your
personal view, most people will agree that people's attitudes toward
autism have drastically changed. Society is much more aware of autism
now, yet, it is still not very accommodating to those on the
spectrum.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">The definition of
autism in the past was simply “a form of childhood psychosis”,
now we know that isn’t true, and such a blunt definition is rather
offensive. With a better understanding, psychologists now realize that
autism exists on a spectrum. It varies in severity. Children who were
seen as aloof, shy, and struggled with social interaction would have
been dismissed as eccentric. Now many of those children are
understood to be on the autistic spectrum, and interventions are
implemented to help them.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">I believe many
professional occupations have a higher prevalence of older
undiagnosed autistic adults, such as software developers/computer
programmers and the creative industries.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Another theory is
that a lot of premature babies are thankfully surviving at much
higher rates than in the decades past. I was one of those babies. In
theory, premature babies are much more likely to be diagnosed with
autism and other conditions. This is a proposed theory, yet there is no concrete evidence to support this claim.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p>
<p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Is it an increase in
the disorder? A radical change in the diagnost</span><span style="font-family: courier;">ic criteria? Or a
combination of different factors. That is open for debate.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Let me know your opinions.</span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;"><br /></span></p><p style="line-height: 100%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: courier;">Trance.</span></p>The Autistic Adventurer.http://www.blogger.com/profile/03918593136440077185noreply@blogger.com0