Thanks for stopping by to see my blog, if you are visiting for the first time could you please could you read the About me page.

Sunday, 21 December 2014


Hello everyone, I have been on a Christmas break as I was demotivated, a reader, Pam messaged me a few days ago to see if I am okay and the like and we had a good chat. anyway Pam ended up writing a post for me so here it is I hope you like it.

Saturday, 29 November 2014

Adaptation Series: Part Two, Socialising

One thing that I still am not able to get over is the whole socialising scene. It's so easy for most NT people in the world, I mean come on, we're humans we are made to to be around each other. 

Thursday, 27 November 2014


Well I realise that I have many readers that are from all over the world and I just want to say happy thanksgiving to all of my american readers.

Tuesday, 25 November 2014

New Page

Well first things first, as you may have noticed I have created a new page on my blog, pop over and have a look. The page is just a few sensory toys that I think could be helpful to parents with a child on the spectrum. With that being said many people, even adults with autism find various sensory toys fun and engaging.

Saturday, 22 November 2014

Another Sleepless Night

Well here I am again not able to sleep, I have to admit that the inability to sleep is my main problem with being on the spectrum, there are many things that could bother me about being autistic, but lack of sleep is one of the work aspects.

Thursday, 20 November 2014

Social Acceptability

I’m starting to feel better which is a good thing because I am well and truly sick of being, well, sick.

Wednesday, 19 November 2014


Hello everyone, if you're new welcome to my blog and I hope you'll be sticking around, if not thanks for reading. Recently I haven't been posting much and that's because I'm not well.

Monday, 17 November 2014

Mondays by Mum - Experience

I really don't know what to say, so I'll just wing it. I have no answers, just experience...

Friday, 14 November 2014

Autism is Common

I find it strange that autism is still treated as if it is strange or uncommon, but in fact in the UK autism affects 1.1% of the population. This means that there is more than one autistic person for every one hundred in the country.

Wednesday, 12 November 2014


As you may know one of the forms of autism that I have is called ODD, or Oppositional defiant disorder.

Monday, 10 November 2014

Mondays by Mum - Schools

The right school, it can't be said strongly enough how important the right school is.

Sunday, 9 November 2014

Success Sundays

Hi, I'm Blaze, I am the mother of an amazing little boy with autism and a rare genetic disorder and a rare disease, my son also has a brilliant sense of humour, the most compassion I've ever seen in a little boy and loads of love. Ben has asked me to write a success story every week for success Sundays. I don't identify myself or my child in my posts because Little D is not old enough to understand to give informed consent, but people who know us will know who we are, he's hard to miss. 

Well, this week was bonfire night. Unlike some children with autism, little D absolutely loves loud noises, what he can't stand, however, is a lot of different noises at once, so if he is in a crowded place and loads of people are talking, there's traffic noise and noises of people going about their fault lives, he tries to listen to every single noise at the same time and it completely overloads his senses. 

Recently I was talking to Ben about little D's super hearing and Ben said that he is the same, he can hear an oven door being opened from two floors above. Little D is like this also, if I try to confiscate something, such as the house keys so he can't escape, he can hear exactly where I put them, no matter how quiet I try to be.

So super hearing definitely has it's benefits for little D. However, it has meant that we have never been able to attend a bonfire and firework display. If little D gets overloaded he bolts, cries, or has a bad seizure, so we've always avoided it. What we have done, however, is given him his own mini fireworks display in the back garden which he absolutely loves. 

Recently, little D has been doing really well with communicating when things are getting too much for him with simple phrases for example "go now" and he now trusts that I will always remove him from the stressful environment so he doesn't have to bolt. 

So, this year, I asked little D if he would like to go to see some fireworks with lots of other people, he obviously agreed because all he heard or understood  was 'fireworks' so I was still very nervous about how he would cope. 

I went through everything with him before hand via social stories, I explained that he'd have to wait for the fireworks outside, that there would be a lot of people, that he would have to stay by mum at all times, where his ear defenders and I went over his get out free phrase "go now". 

Little D was so exited, he wore his ear defenders willingly (they are sometimes a sensory issue in themselves) and we went off to stand in a pub car park in the cold to watch a bonfire, my heart pounding for him all the time. 

He was amazing! He left his ear defenders on, spent the waiting time jumping up and down and pulling faces at me, he tried to blow out the bonfire when it was lit which was very amusing, and he cheered at the fireworks. 

One hour in, he looked at me and said "go now" and we left immediately, and he smiled all the way home! 

Next year I'm thinking of taking him to a professional display because he did so well this year! He works so hard and makes me proud every single day. I won't find writing a weekly success story a challenge at all. 


Saturday, 8 November 2014

Medication - Continued

I'm sorry that I had to cut the post short yesterday but I have something that I needed to deal with otherwise I wouldn't have hesitated in completing this post, with that said I think having time to think about what I'm going to say in the post has helped me decide how I want to structure the post.

Friday, 7 November 2014


This post has been the child of a full days worth of research, it is unusual that I need to perform research on any of my posts as they tend to be written simply about my life, feeling and experiences. Whereas this post will be about medication.

Monday, 3 November 2014

Reflection On A Rubbish Day

As some of you my know yesterday was a pretty rubbish day for me. It was just one of those days that made me wish I didnt have autism, that I was just NT.

Sunday, 2 November 2014

My Appointment

So today I has my doctors appointment with the mental health team and I have to admit that it was not worth the stress I gave it.

Thursday, 30 October 2014


So today I have spent a lot of time thinking about what exactly I will be writing todays post on. this is more difficult that you would think because I have a tendency to write the same thing over and over again with knowing that I am doing it.

Wednesday, 29 October 2014

Hard Drive

Okay everyone, first things first I've ordered a new hard drive and that should solve my computer issues but until that comes posts won't be as good. That's because I don't particularly enjoy typing on my phone which means the post will be rushed and shorter than usual and I'm sorry about that.
Also for some reason I feel like it is harder to think of something to post about when ever I write on my phone. I didn't get to see my girl today as planned. This obviously made me feel anxious and I hate the fact that something as simple as that can get me anxious. Its rather annoying because I want to be understanding about it but the way I feel stops me for being completely understanding.

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Computer trouble

Hello everyone, expect posts of a lesser quality and formatting that isn't right. My laptop is correctly out of commission and I'm using to use my phone to post which isn't a fun experience. I'm going seeing Katie tomorrow and get mum may be getting some bad news, I don't know how to deal with people who are upset and crying, I never have. The issue is when I cry I don't want to be touched so that's how I act when someone else is crying even though I know that I should cuddle then and make them feel better. I really hope it isn't bad news because I don't want to see her upset.


Monday, 27 October 2014

Mondays by Mum - Hero

It's ok not to be a hero, there have been no questions asked. So I've decided to share this nugget. I knew Ben was different from six weeks old. He cried when held, tried to push away from me. He stared vacantly and didn't respond to play. The worst thing wash the awful screaming to keep himself awake. Ben had been really poorly from birth with his chest. I became obsessed with bleach. Thinking I'd done something wrong. So when I raised my concerns with my health visitor, who may I add had no children. Ben was my second. She told my I was over anxious and young. I was 21.I knew there was a problem. Every time I mentioned things to a healthcare provider I was foo fooed with the same old response. When one day I found myself locked in the bathroom begging my sister to come take the kids, it was all my fault, Ben just didn't like me. The strain was waring me down. My husband wasn't very supportive. I know now that he shares many traits with Ben. I sat in my mum's and the words she said have gotten me through many trying times. No woman is a super hero, until she has a child, for them she will swim the deepest sea and scale the highest peak. She will fight any battle no matter how long to make sure they have what they need. I knew Ben was different I didn't know why. But I wasn't going to stop until I knew why.


Sunday, 26 October 2014

Saturday, 25 October 2014

Fall Out

So today I managed to fall out with someone but that didn’t really bother me because I know that I did nothing wrong. I am one of those people that will always tell someone the truth and there are many people in the world that lie to themselves and want to hear nothing but the lie that they tell themselves.

Thursday, 23 October 2014

Plans and Disruption

Plans are needed by everyone, otherwise nothing would be organised, nothing would get done and the whole world would grind to a halt. But if something doesn’t go to plan for most people they just shrug it off and move on but when something that has been planned and goes wrong, a spectrum dweller can quickly become overwhelmed.

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Clothes continued

Well today I am going to be posting about clothes... for a second time. I do try to get all relevant information into each post but I lack the concentration span that is needed in order to write posts that are much longer than 350 words. This means sometimes you will have to read a second or even a third continuation of a post. So clothes, yes material, colour, feel and fit are important but so are the little things, tags, seems, buttons and zips all affect me.
So the first item on the list is tags, tags are not the most comfortable aspect of clothing for anyone. I have been known to unpick the stitches that hold in the tags on my clothing where possible. The problem with this I'd not everyone knows how or has the tools required. Further more not all tags can be removed, if the stitching that holds the in place are also needed to hold the clothes together this isn't possible.
Seams can be bothersome when the material that the clothes are made out of isn't as soft or thicker. They become more noticeable and in turn, more uncomfortable.  Most seams on clothes are made in such a fashion that they are not meant to be overly visible or easy to feel when worn. This is helpful but with my tactile oversensitivity I am still bothered by the seams on my clothes. You would think that there would be more seamless clothes on the market these days but for the few that I can seem to find they are so overpriced that I am unable to afford them.
Buttons can be bothersome in their own little way, as buttons are too much of while actually wearing the clothes, putting them one in the first place can. Now I enjoy wearing shirts and recently I have started to wear more of them and for all the great aspects of shirts the one thing I hate the most function wise are buttons. Not only can they be easily ripped off if one isn’t careful, they can be difficult to button up. In the morning when my tablets are still having a drowsing effect on me I am unable to button up the shirt myself. I know my mum is more than willing to help me out but I don’t like the idea of having to ask her to help me get dressed at the age of 18. So I leave them mostly buttoned and slide them veer my head just like I would when wearing a t-shirt.
Zips are one of my favourite forms of clothing clothes, they are secure, easy to seal and unseal and most of all they usually have some material to stop them from pinching your skin. But one issue that I seem to have with zips on jeans is forgetting to undo them all the way and I end up splitting them when I go to take them off. This makes them useless as clothes.

Thanks for reading and as usually, keep in mind that a little patience can go a long way,


Monday, 20 October 2014


I have been asked quite a few questions since I started this blog but one that I have only actually received once is relationships.

Sunday, 19 October 2014

Adaptation Series: Part One, Transportation

So for the first instalment in this series I will be talking about how I have overcome my inability to use public transportation. But first let's discuss why I am not able to use it.

Adaptation Series: Introduction

I have decided to do a series of posts that have a common subject, this series will be a non regular series, meaning that I don't have the intention of doing a post on a certain day for it but will be doing hopefully at least one post per week on this subject.

Friday, 17 October 2014

My day

So today has been busy! Had a lot to do and been to youth zone, for anyone who's on the fence about letting your child go there I'd give it a glowing recommendation.

Thursday, 16 October 2014


Clothes, yes that’s right I am going to do an entire post about clothing. Now you may ask why but I have always had issues with the kind of clothes I wear, I mean the material had to be right, the fit, the size even the colour could cause me to refuse an item of clothing. I am going to talk you through some of this and hopefully you can understand just why us people on the spectrum are so choosy when it comes to clothing.

Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Feedback Needed

Right you will all be happy to know that the fonts on the blog are now set and there shouldn’t be any more problems with that.

Heads up

Just a heads up, expect font mess ups and various issues with text on the blog as I am trying to get blogger to reset the default font, 




We’ve got lots of news and it’s not even midday yet, first of all you may notice that the blog address now redirects to That’s because I have registered a web address for use with the website that I’m building.

Tuesday, 14 October 2014


Okay, so after a quick post on Facebook I saw that there are at least a few people out there who would love to have some ideas for adding healthy food to meals.

Just another post

So while thinking about this blog I realised that I don't care if no one reads it, I want to post about myself a little more, because it's rather therapeutic to be honest.

Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Good day

Hello everyone, you know what, today has been an amazing day, one been to see my college tutors as I needed to get sponsor money and then I've been at youth done all day.

Tuesday, 7 October 2014


When I can't sleep at night I think, and when I think I always end up on the same topic and in turn the same conclusion.

Monday, 6 October 2014

Doctors visit

I'm actually writing this post while sat in the waiting room of the doctors. Don't know why but I'm feeling really anxious even though I'm seeing the same doctor that I always see.

Sunday, 5 October 2014


One of the issues that come with having autism is general impulsive behavior, in children it just means acting out and being inappropriate.

Saturday, 4 October 2014


Well it's Saturday and I'm tired, I hate it when I can't sleep. I don't really think this will be a long post but here we go.

Night life

Okay, so I can't sleep once again and thought maybe I should do another post. This time I'm going to talk about what exactly it is that I do to pass the time at night. 

Friday, 3 October 2014

Just a Side Note

  • You may notice small changes to the design, just trying to get it to look as I want, I hope you will bear with me and I welcome all feedback.
  • Also we had our first French visitor to the blog, Bonjour! 
  • Please can you all take a minute to view the blog on the desktop view and participate in the poll that I have set up to the right.
  • To read the entire post all you have to do is click the "read more" button.
  • Finally, I have managed to sort the time stamps for all future posts.
Thanks again for reading my blog,



One of the first pieces of advice given to parents with autistic children is to put in place and maintain a clearly defined routine. It is often said that this can help the child in all aspects of their behaviour.

Thursday, 2 October 2014

Sensory processing

So today's post is going to be about how I am affected by what's around me. Everyone has senses, but not everyone perceives them the same way. Humans have five senses and I'm going to go through each of then and how they make me feel.
The first is taste, now I'm lucky that I'm  not overly affected by tastes.
The second is smell, I find that I am frequently overloaded with smells. Certain smells knock me sick, one of the worst ones is tobacco smoke. My mum smokes and sometimes she'll smoke at the back door rather than the front. The smoke comes right into the living room and I have to go upstairs. But other smells get to me, the smell of food cooking knocks me sick, "damp smell" also makes me sick. I find many perfumes make me agitated because they are usually such a strong, sweet smell and I hate it. I have scented candles that I use, and I have learned that I can use them to calm down.
The third is sight, I have to say that photosensitivity is a problem for me. I find that bright lights hurt my eyes, but not just that lights that most people find comfortable are far too intense for me. Even when the lights don't hurt per say, they can still make me feel agitated and anxious. I find it surprising how much light can affect me. The use of candles also helps with lighting, also I have a lava lamp and had rgb lighting. I'm looking to replace them soon as the ones I had broke.
The next is sound, I am incredibly sound sensitive, when I was younger it was very bothersome but as I've grown up I have learned that I can use it to my advantage. Don't get me wrong I am still bothered by sounds, loud and "busy" sounds get to me most. By busy sounds I mean bring in a room where lots of people are talking or lots of different music is playing.
The last is touch, now I know that I am going to miss so much out in this section because it's so extensive. Most people don't think about it, but temperature, clothes, interpersonal contact and so much more are felt with this sense. I find that I am not bothered by temperatures that most would find uncomfortable. Even now at my age I find myself often refusing to wear some items of clothing based solely on the way they feel when I wear them. As you probably could guess this makes buying clothes online difficult and also clothes that I have received as gifts. Even the small clothing items like socks have to be certain types otherwise they really bother me and I'm not exactly sure why. Now here comes the most sought after section, contact, it can mean anything from cuddles to being in a fight. Let's start off on the nice side of contact, cuddles are often seen by many parents as needed in order to bond with their child, also it's the go to response when a child needs comforting. But most people with autism find contact with other people uncomfortable. I am one of those people. That doesn't mean I never cuddle my mum, it just means she has to wait for when I want to cuddle. And that's the advice that I'll give to you, don't force kisses and cuddles on your child, just wait for them to come to you, it may take a while, but they will come.

As always thanks for reading and remember that a little patience can go a long way,


Just as a little note, the time stamps on blogger are incorrect and I will be manually adding them in the posts until I work out how to change it, this post was written at 16:44.


I can't sleep, as usual... and that made me think about how my lack of sleeping used to affect others. Now that I'm older I don't need to have my mum stay up with me because I am capable of looking after myself. But when I was younger my mum obviously needed to stay up with me; she could have just left me to my own devices and hoped for the best... but she didn't. As time goes by and you realise that you're in it for the long haul, it can look bleak. After all just because your child can live and function on three hours sleep doesn't mean you can. So don't forget you can always sleep during the day when they're at school if you don't work, if you do work, find some other times to sleep. Its crazy just how much better you'll feel with as little as an hour of sleep.
Does your child/ren have difficulty sleeping? If so, why not drop a few tips on  how you deal with the situation.

Thanks for taking the time to read this article, and as always, try to remember, a little patience goes a long way,


Wednesday, 1 October 2014


So today is the second day that I am posting to this blog, it's hard to decide what to talk about because there is just so much to say. But one thing that I am sure I want to talk about is that four letter word, "love". The one question that I have been asked a few times is why don't young autistic children show their love. The true answer to that is I don't exactly know, I was seven years old before I first told my mum that I loved her. Does that mean that I didn't love her up until that point... NO! it doesn't, I have always loved my mum but I don't know how to show it, yes, I used the word "don't" because the truth is I often act like I don't love her and sometimes it's something I do hate because her has been an amazing mum, she has fought for me my entire life and for that I am eternally grateful.

When I was younger, I had no self control, I was stronger that my mum by the age of six or so and that made life rather difficult on her part because my dad wasn't around to help and she just didn't know what to do. When my mum would bring this up with the health visitor, she would always give the same advice, telling her to stand her ground, put me outside the living and wait. But that rarely worked because I was able to push the door open even when she was holding from the other side.
But as I have got older I have learnt that behavior like isn't acceptable... sometimes I still lose myself like I used to but I have learnt that rather than trying to have 100 percent control, All that was needed was for me to walk away and even to this day that is so vary difficult for me.

Anyway, back to the original topic, try to see the world from our shoes, although we have feelings, we have no way to explain the way we feel. Then even now I have gained the ability to explain how I feel, most of the time I don't know why I feel that way. When you have days where you think that your child doesn't love you, just try to remember what I've said, and someday they will walk up to you, tell you that they love you and it will be one of the happiest and most bonding experiences of your life.

Thanks for reading and remember, a little patience goes a long way,


Tuesday, 30 September 2014

The Start

Hello and welcome to my blog, this is the first post of what I hope to become many, the general idea of this blog is to help people understand autism from my view. I am not saying that everyone with autism is the same, but I hope that with some guidance from myself, maybe people can understand those who are affected by autism a little better.

Now a little about myself, 
My name's Spec and I have been diagnosed with Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) and Asperger's. I am now 18 and have become quite able to speak about my conditions and how they affect me. I'm not sure yet if I am going to post about routine, daily events or just the big stuff. 

Just so you all know, I don't believe that everyone with autism is the same, and I'm not in the belief that the information I may give will reflect every individual that has autism. Now that's out of the way, I am here to offer any advice from my perspective, I will also answer any questions you have honestly.

I know that living with someone who has autism is difficult and I hope through me, you may learn to better understand autistic people as a whole.